Teenager 'gatekeeps' feminine products from stepsisters, says, 'I have my reasons.'
When this teenage girl is upset with her stepsisters, she asks Reddit:
'AITA for not giving my step-sisters access to my hygiene drawer?'
I'll began by saying that both families are mostly girls, mom has 2 step-daughters (17F and 15F) and my dad has 3 step-daughters and 1 bio-son (18F, 15F, 12F and 5M), and there's me 16F).
Since my mom has only girls, my dad don't know anything about girl products and I'm not comfortable telling those things to my step-mom, my mom takes care of my hygiene products...
(mostly pads, skincare, makeup wipes, etc), at her house, she was a small cabinet full of these things (like tiktok restocking vids) that she restocks every month or every 6 weeks, I take some of these things to my dad's because I spend 2-3 weeks there.
I began to have problems when my step-sisters from my dad's side entered my room and took my things without asking, they wore my clothes, my accessories, my shoes and then took the things my mom bought for me, I complained to my dad, but he didn't do anything...
he also didn't allow me to put a lock in my room so my mom bought me two tall lockers to put my fave things there, my dad and step-mom didn't like this, but didn't say anything either when my step-dad installed them in my room.
Since I keep most of my hygiene products in my bathroom the lockers didn't stop my step-sisters from taking my pads, skincare and stuff, it was annoying because when I needed or wanted to use MY things, they're gone, so my step-dad bought me a small cabined with locked drawers to keep it.
They complained at this because my dad is aware that my mom has a cabinet stocked with these kind of products and doesn't know why ''we can't share'', apparently, they stopped buying these things to my sisters because they knew I had them at home.
Yesterday, my step-sister (15F) came to my room and asked me for a pad, I was annoyed, yes, but you never say no to a pad, so I went to my bathroom and unlocked the drawer, when I grabbed the bag to take one, she snatched it from my hands and say ''thanks'', I say ''wait'' and snatched it back...
I gave her only one and then tossed the rest to my drawer and locked it, she said she needed more for her period and I said that she should hurry up and ask her mom for a bag because I won't share more, she called me an AH...
and went to accuse me with my dad who demanded I share my drawer with my sisters but I just say no, he grounded me and I'm not allowed to get out of my room now. Maybe I took it to far? AITA?
Let's find out.
nutmeshell writes:
NTA. Your mother is not responsible for seeing to the hygiene needs of children who aren’t her own. Maybe it’s time to spend less time at Dad’s place.
kokenlocker5 writes:
They sound like they think they’re entitled to whatever OP has, whether it’s clothes, accessories, or hygiene products. At most, they sound annoyed that they have to ASK(/demand) instead of just going into OP’s supposedly private space taking whatever they want.
Stepmom was pissed about the locks because those got in the way of letting her daughters steal whatever they want. If they really were humiliated, I think stepmom would’ve bought the stuff for them.
In fact, what do they do when OP isn’t around? They probably do have products, but they want to inconvenience OP first. Stepmom doesn’t like OP, and she’s encouraged her daughters not to like her, also. She’s certainly not fostering any sisterly bonding
eplurba writes:
OP is being punished for THE PARENTS lack of providing, if she doesn’t wanna share her personal products she doesn’t have to, especially when OP has made it a Crystal fact that they are STEALING her stuff, to the point she had to literally lock her own things away!
This is ridiculous and as a mom I would fight to keep her home, no kid should have to live like this. This is causing a lot of unnecessary resentment —and all of this bc Stepmom and dad won’t provide for their kids. I shop for my daughter and I on budgets, there are dollar stores that stock these things!