'AITA for not letting my teenager go to a party she has been excited about for weeks?'
"AITA for not letting my teenager go to a party she has been excited about for weeks?"
There is party that my 17 has been excited about going to a Christmas party for weeks. One of her good friends is throwing it. She is very responsible. I trust she won’t drink and will be home by curfew.
The parents will be home as well. The issue that comes in we are going to get bad weather. Ice and snow during the night. She does not have a lot of experience driving in snowy/icy weather since she got her license in the summer.
Her father and I don’t feel comfortable having one of her first solo driving experiences in icy/snowy weather be at night. Her friends parents don’t want any one staying the night.
My husband is an EMT and will be on duty. He has stated multiple times when the weather snowy and icy it is safer for everyone if people who don’t need to be out driving stay off the roads.
We told her it would be safer if she stayed home and she would have other parties. She is mad and not speaking to me right now.
She yelled that I broke my promise and how I say a person word is everything and i'm not a good parent and this is just my anxiety and to not promise something if you don’t mean it and that very AH. AITA?
EDIT: The friend lives about 30 minutes away. The road crews and first responders are advising people to stay off the roads. If it is what it is predicted to be it will be bad.
Here's what people had to say:
bwc1922 writes:
A 30 minute drive in icy and snowy conditions is hard for ANYONE. Clearly the daughter isn’t the AH but I seriously don’t blame the mother for this situation. Also those saying Uber, would you really trust your kids life in the hands of another person in adverse conditions….
The only caveat here is that I would at least tell your daughter that you can play it by ear based on the weather conditions when it nears the party. If it is okay enough, then I would suggest you drive her.
ard for ANYONE. Clearly the daughter isn’t the AH but I seriously don’t blame the mother for this situation. Also those saying Uber, would you really trust your kids life in the hands of another person in adverse conditions….
The only caveat here is that I would at least tell your daughter that you can play it by ear based on the weather conditions when it nears the party. If it is okay enough, then I would suggest you drive her.
ishouldbestudying111 writes:
NTA, and someone I know just got killed in a car accident leaving behind his pregnant wife and toddler daughter. You can never be too careful when it comes to the road.
Car accidents are one of the leading causes of death in America. Better to have a daughter who is angry at you but alive than one who got killed in a car accident because somebody else thought they knew how to drive on the ice and didn’t. Because it’s not just about her driving ability or yours.
It’s about everyone who will be on the roads that day. There will be other parties. There won’t be other daughters.