"Am I wrong to not tell my neighbor that his wife might be cheating on him?"
What does being a good neighbor mean? Do you just wave to each other when you get home from work? Loan each other sugar or milk when you're out? Keep tabs on each others spouses to let them know if someone is cheating. On a popular Reddit thread in the Am I the A**hole Subreddit, one neighbor is at a crossroads of whether or not he should tell his neighbor that his wife may be cheating on him.
AITA for not caring about my neighbor’s infidelity?
If a tree falls and nobody is around to hear it does it make a noise?
Full disclosure. I’ve (47m) never witnessed anything myself and don’t really know these people. Everything I’m about to write comes from what my wife (39f) has told me.
Don't want to get too chummy with your neighbors.
This situation is about the neighbors directly across the street. They moved in a couple of years ago and are a young couple. If I had to guess, they’re in their early 30s. We wave to each other when we see each other and have said hi a few times, but I don’t know their names. I’ll just call them Bob and Susan.
Your wife has the perfect office for a neighborhood watch.
Apparently, Bob leaves for work earlier and comes home later than Susan. My wife has a hybrid schedule where she works part of the week at the office and part at home. Her home office is in front of our house and looks directly into the house across the street.
What are adult activities?
Recently, she’s been telling me that when she works from home, she sees a man visiting the neighbor’s house either after Bob leaves for work or before he comes home. She swears she saw adult activities between this stranger and Susan because their curtains were open.
Modern marriages are different now.
At first, it was just humorous, but as the weeks passed, my wife got more and more agitated with the situation. She wanted me to talk to Bob to tell him what was going on, which I refused because it’s not our problem, and we don’t know if they have an arrangement.
OP abides by the mind your business mantra of being a neighbor.
Then she started to take pics on her phone to show me the car and the guy. It was almost a fight to make her delete the pics. Now the agitation has turned into full-blown anger at me. She’s mad I’m not more concerned with Susan cheating on Bob. I told her I have our lives to live, and I don’t care what goes on in their house. This answer angered her so much that she slept in the guest bedroom for a few nights.
Funny, what a night alone can do to someone.
I don’t feel like I’m doing anything wrong by minding my own business, but I also slept alone for a couple of nights.
majestic_BACON1 says:
NTA (Not the A**hole). It just seems like she wants you to agree with her that it's wrong more than she wants to tell them. She might be thinking you ok with people cheating so she might be scared you will.
SuperHuckleberry125 says:
NTA.
Tell your wife you do not want to be involved with this circus.
Not your circus. Not your monkeys. Not your problem.
Rude_Vermicelli2268 says:
NTA. If she’s so upset about it, she can tell Bob herself. But has she considered that - they may be swingers, in an open relationship or she is a sex worker with Bob’s support? Please come back with an update, your Reddit family is almost as invested as your wife.