'AITA for not inviting my daughter to dinner after she called my GF a gold digger?'
Dating post-divorce is hard, especially if you have children. You never know how they may react to your new partner, whether with acceptance, anger, or apathy. You can only control how you handle the situation, not how anyone else handles it.
On a popular Reddit thread on the Am I the A**hole Subreddit, one man has a daughter that is not particularly jazzed with his new girlfriend.
He writes:
I've never been particularly close with my daughter. After her mom and I divorced when she was 13, I saw her maybe once every 2-3 months and on birthdays/holidays. I blame myself for that; after the divorce, I went into a mid-life crisis (although I was only in my early 30s).
Over the last few years, I've dated quite a few women, but I wouldn't class any of those relationships as 'serious.' Six months ago, I started dating my current girlfriend.
About six weeks ago, I invited most of my family out to dinner (my daughter, my siblings, their partners, and my parents); I felt like our relationship was at a point where I wanted to introduce her as my girlfriend to the family. And everyone seemed to like her, and we had a fun dinner.
But then, after a few glasses of wine, my daughter got into this small argument; I honestly don't even remember what it was about, and during that argument, she called my girlfriend a gold digger and left shortly after. She generally just ruined the whole dinner.
I'm not delusional; I know one of the reasons my girlfriend is with me is money, and I assume everyone else in the family knows; the same way, one of the reasons I'm with my girlfriend is her looks. Last weekend I threw a small indoor BBQ dinner at my house, and I again invited most of my family and a few friends, and some of my girlfriend's friends. But I didn't invite my daughter.
She didn't like my girlfriend, and I didn't want a repeat of the last situation. However, when my daughter found out she wasn't invited afterward, she sent me some angry messages calling me a 'selfish narcissistic prick.' And for whatever reason, one of my sisters has taken her side and said I should have invited her. So AITA for not inviting her?
All things gold digger-related will be immediately forwarded to the internet for review.
Remarkable_Inchworm says:
So you’re acknowledging that she’s with you, at least partly for your money, but your daughter doesn’t have the right to share that opinion? Enjoy being a sugar daddy since it’s clear you aren’t interested in a real relationship with your kid. YTA (You're the A**hole).
Sufficient_Cat says:
I bet she remembers what the argument was about. So she can forgive your midlife crisis, making you drop out of her life and become a deadbeat dad, but you cut her out of your life for calling your gold digger girlfriend a gold digger during an argument? It doesn’t take much for you to leave her, does it? YTA.
Primary-Criticism929 says:
YTA. This has nothing to do with your GF but with the fact that you're a sh*tty father.
If you're already aware of this, you can't be mad when someone says the quiet thing out loud, OP.