Man asks if he's wrong to forbid wife from wearing wedding dress to cousin's wedding.
There are taboos everyone knows to avoid during weddings like not wearing white to a wedding, the bride getting what she wants, and no knives as wedding gifts. On a popular Reddit thread on the Am I the A**hole Subreddit, one woman pushes a common taboo to the edge.
AITA for telling my wife she can't wear her wedding dress to my cousin's wedding and that she doesn't have to attend if she does
My wife Amy and I got married a few months ago. My cousin Sam is getting married early next year to his fiancee Jane. Amy and Jane don't get along too well, they're fine at family events and stuff, but they don't run in the same circles otherwise. Amy mentioned before that Jane is too shy and doesn't want to be part of their group.
Amy is not the ideas person in this relationship.
Amy saw what Jane's dress looked like from another cousin. I haven't seen it, but it's custom-made, white and gold, and she thinks it's too much. The issue now is that Amy's come up with the idea to wear her wedding dress to Sam and Jane's wedding.
Do you only have one dress, Amy?
She said she doesn't have time to go shopping, and her dress isn't traditional white (pink).
I said she couldn't wear her wedding dress to someone else's wedding, but she insisted. I told her if she insists on wearing this dress, she doesn't have to attend.
I think your wedding dress is the one dress that you hope will never be reused (by you).
Amy got upset and said I'm trying to control her and that her dress should be reused instead of sitting in the closet.
Amy's friends are 'yes' women.
This has blown up, and I don't think you should wear your wedding dress to another wedding, regardless of if it's white or not. I don't think I'm the AH, but Amy is mad, she told her friend, and the friend also said I couldn't tell her if she should attend.
ETA: I've been looking online and found this picture similar to my wife's dress. Not exactly the same but close. If anyone wanted a reference'
little_owl211 says:
NTA (Not the A**hole). WTF is wrong with her??? This is basic knowledge, and she doesn't have time to go dress shopping, my a**! Here are other solutions: wearing anything else she already has, borrowing a dress from a friend, online shopping, or not going.
She's trying to steal the spotlight for no good reason
ETA: if you have even the slightest hunch that she will do it, TELL THE BRIDE. And if she does it, someone better have a glass of wine ready for an emergency dress-staining incident
notdancingQueen says:
NTA. If I correctly understood this:
1. Your wife doesn't like the bride (Ok, I guess?)
2. Your wife disapproves of the wedding dress (which, frankly, is none of her business)
3. Your wife thinks that because she doesn't like the bride or her wedding dress, she's entitled to be trashy and wear her own dress to a family wedding.
Your wife would be in my top 10 list of people not to touch, even with a 10 feet pole.
dancerwales says:
I was on the fence until I saw the dress...that's a wedding dress. NTA.
She's already trying to sh*t-stir. I honestly wouldn't trust her to do some other petty sh*t on the day, I'd tell her she isn't going because her attitude has proven she can't be trusted. Ensure your cousin rescinds her invite too.
She doesn't like it? Don't try to turn up in a wedding dress to someone else's wedding.
Kaiters710 says:
NTA. It's a wedding dress even if the color is nontraditional, most of the family will know it's a wedding dress. The audacity is astounding with this one. She can't even order a dress online or just wear a nice outfit she already has instead she wants to wear her wedding dress to someone else's wedding.
Be aware if it's not this stunt, she could attempt another stunt somewhere else. I understand not liking someone, but that is no excuse for being disrespectful.
OP, your wife, is becoming the villain of this wedding story, and you need to stop her like Shrek stopped Lord Farquaad in the movie Shrek.