'My fiancé pushed my brother into a pond and now my family is boycotting my wedding.' AITA?

"My fiancé pushed my brother into a pond and now my family is boycotting my wedding..."

I understand when I put it like that (the title) it does sound bad. But hear me out. I'm 23F and my fiancé is 25M. My brother is 28M. My brother is an abrasive person to say the least. I am East Asian and I only mention my ethnicity because I genuinely feel that some of this is a cultural issue, where my brother being the older male child, gets all the slack in the world. He is very much favored.

It was after we went to dinner with my family to celebrate my mom's birthday. My parents invited us back to their place (where my brother still lives at home). We went out to the backyard to take a family photo. My mom wanted to change her clothes first so she went to go do that. I don't remember where my dad was (probably on the toilet lol). My fiancé, brother (obviously drunk), and myself were standing outside.

My brother received a dating app notification. It was loud and it was Grindr. No one acknowledged it or cared, but my brother chose to make a comment. He said something like 'I'm just trying something new because I'm curious. You know how it is and nudged my fiancé.

My fiancé raised a brow. My brother added "being in the military and all, you experimented right?" My fiancé just replied with: "Wrong." My brother then said something like "You give off toxic top energy." My fiancé ignored the comment and I was just annoyed at this point so I replied: "Who talks like that? What is wrong with you?"

My brother then made a sudden gesture of raising his arm as if to hit me (backhand) and on instinct, I just flinched and closed my eyes. Unfortunately, my fiancé's instinct was to block my brother in that same moment and because my brother had drank quite a bit, he staggered backward into my dad's pond.

My brother has exaggerated the story in his favor and is now loudly boycotting my wedding (and has convinced my parents to do so as well) because I refuse to let my fiancé pay for my brother's expensive custom suit that is supposedly ruined beyond repair.

I am pretty sure he can just dry-clean it. I love my parents but I'm sick of how blindly they back my brother up. Am I being petty? My aunt told me to pick my battles, that this isn't a time to hold a grudge and I swear it's not wedding stress that's making me feel this way. I am just fed up with always having to absorb the damage while he gets coddled.

Here's what people had to say about this one:

BasicRabbit4 said:

Let them miss the wedding and save yourself the embarrassment of your brother's drunk and inappropriate behavior. One less thing to stress over imo. NTA.

Stakex007 said:

Your fiancé sounds like a keeper and your family sucks. NTA and not being petty (they are).

rong-rite said:

Tell your parents if they boycott your wedding, they boycott their grandchildren.

el_grande_ricardo said:

NTA. You'll enjoy your wedding more without the three of them there causing drama.

WhatTheActualFck1 said:

NTA. Your man child of a brother needs to grow the f up and your parents need to cut off the umbilical cord because it’s not doing him any favors.

SpiteWestern6739 said:

NTA, why would you want people that think it is ok to physically assault you at your wedding? Because that is what happened here, your brother attempted to assault you and your fiancee defended you and now your family are defending your brother's right to physically attack you.

hexagon_heist said:

To be very clear, your brother drunkenly stumbled into the pond while trying to slap you. That’s on him and that’s the narrative that needs to be told. But yeah, massive NTA. And it’s probably a good thing your brother won’t be there, at least.

evilcj925 said:

Your aunt is right, you do need to pick your battles. And this is one you need fight. If your husband stopping someone, even your brother, from assulting you is not something you should defend, than what is? If your parents are ok with that happening, then maybe they should not be at your wedding, or in your life. NTA