Pregnant woman wants 23yo step-daughter to move out; says, 'I need room for my baby.'
"AITA for asking step-daughter to move out?"
This is an ongoing issue going on in my home. I, 33F, am currently pregnant with my first child. I live in a two-bedroom home with my husband and stepdaughter (23F). My stepdaughter and I get along fine, with no big issues, but we are not super close.
Now that the baby is coming, we need more space. Unfortunately, we can't afford a new home. I brought up to my husband asking my stepdaughter to move out. I reason that we need her room for the new baby, and she is an adult with a full-time job, so it is time for her to be on her own anyway.
My husband agreed, and we brought it up to her at dinner one night. We told her we would help with her first two months' rent. I told her it would be fun for her, that I could go shopping, and help her decorate her new apartment. We tried to be as gentle as we could, but she was very quiet.
Privately she told my husband that even though she has a full-time job, she cannot afford to live on her own. My husband told her she did not need to move out, so we are scrambling to find space for a new baby.
The other day I was home alone with my Stepdaughter and tried to talk to her about it again. I offered to help her find a roommate, and she snapped at me. She snapped at me and told me just to leave her alone and locked herself in her room.
When my husband got home from work, he was mad at me and told me to leave her alone and not bring it up anymore. Things have been awkward and uncomfortable since making my pregnancy very stressful. She is 23 old enough to be on her own she has a job, and we are willing to help her. We need space for our baby I do not see how I am in the wrong here.
The internet can settle any housing dispute.
wolfeye18 says:
So you and your husband can’t afford another place to live, but you expect her to?
DeltaVDeficit says:
YTA (You're the A**h@ole). You're barely a decade older than your step-daughter; leave her parenting to her actual parent. Secondly, yes, she's behaving badly towards you; you're trying to kick her out of her home. Thirdly, do you know the economic fu**ery in the world today? Completely unsurprising that a full-time (presumably entry-level for a 20-something) job cannot cover expenses.
Hot-Plum-874 says:
YTA. It is hard for young adults these days. Unless they marry an older guy with $$$, your baby can stay in the room with you for the first months. You are being unrealistic about decorating a new place. Leave the discussions with her to your husband.
OP, the simple reality of life is that even if you have a full-time job you