Woman asks if she was wrong to ditch BF for inviting his 'bros' on road trip.
Setting boundaries and expectations in your relationship is essential. If you want to go on a vacation with your partner without their friends tagging along, that is a fair boundary.
On a popular Reddit thread in the Am I the A**hole Subreddit, a woman asks if she was wrong to bail on her vacation after her boyfriend tried to trick her.
'AITA for turning around in my car when I saw that my boyfriend brought his friends with him to go on a trip with us?'
OP's boyfriend wants a bro's trip.
I f30 am dating my boyfriend 'Smith' m39 for 8+ months. We planned to go on a road trip, but it couldn't happen because he insisted that we let his two friends tag along.
He brought it up again and promised he won't ask me to let him bring his friends with him since (1) I'm paying for the expenses. and (2) It's my car. (3) I wanted us to go alone for once without having his friends tag along. (4) I don't want to pay for his friends.
Your boyfriend is a bro's before h*es kind of guy.
We agreed that I'd come to pick him up in the morning so we could go together. I came in my car and entered his neighborhood. I saw him standing outside with his bag, AND his two friends were also standing there with their bags. I was shocked and furious. I didn't pull over.
I just turned around and kept driving and went back home. I saw him running after me in the rearview mirror. He then stopped and started calling me. I did not respond til I got home.
I feel like there's a reason this guy is 39 and single.
He lashed out at me on the phone, asking why I turned around and left. I told him why and I didn't appreciate how he tried to force me to take his friends with us after I said 'no' already. He called me awful, said I ruined everything for us, and acted immaturely and spitefully.
He said I could've just accepted it how it is, but I told him that I would never accept being put in a situation where I'm expected to 'suck it up.' He hung up after yelling at me for a few minutes.
She embarrassed him?
I called back but got no response. He texted about how I embarrassed him in front of his friends and is refusing to speak to me until after I apologized. AITA for turning around in my car and going home? Did I make the right call?
Kirin2013 says:
NTA (Not the A**hole). Take it as a sign and move on girl.
Straight-Singer-2912 says:
He's THIRTY-NINE?? And wants his GF to pay for and chauffeur his friends? And lie to get you to do it? Then accuse YOU of acting 'immaturely'?
That sound you hear is a giant red flag flapping in the wind. Run fast, run far, my friend. NTA
ScottsdaleBlondie says:
Your 39-year-old boyfriend doesn't have a car and can't afford to pay his own way on a road trip? And expects you to foot the bill of his freeloading friends as well? I'm glad you turned around, and I hope you keep on driving away from this relationship. NTA