Woman asks if it was wrong to cancel vacation after husband stole daughter's passport.
When you're married to someone you expect them to always be honest with you. When you find out your partner has been intentionally lying to teach you a lesson how mad would you be? On a popular Reddit thread on the Am I the A**hole Subreddit, a woman asks if she was wrong to cancel a family vacation after her husband lied to her.
AITA for cancelling the entire trip after finding out that my husband hid my daughter's passport?
Some people just want a God-fearing man.
My husband and I have been together for three years. He has three kids from his previous relationship and I have one. She's the oldest (17). He's a dedicated man, puts God first, and loves everyone.
Some people love their stepchildren and others want free babysitting from them.
My husband always complains that my daughter doesn't spend time with her stepsiblings or him but she has reasons for that like school, health issues, and work.
She does her best to spend as much time with them as she can, but she on the other hand complains that her stepdad tells her to basically take on the role of a babysitter whenever she's with her stepsiblings. My husband denied that and said that my daughter was making up excuses to not have to spend time with his kids.
Movies have taught me that family vacations fix everything.
For this issue, I figured that a family trip is what the family needs to get together and spend more time around each other. My husband liked the idea but said that his kids are 'uncomfortable' around my daughter now because of her 'attitude', and suggested we let her stay home and have the house all to herself since that's 'what she always wanted'. I told him it's best that we all go.
He kept complaining til I snapped and told him to stop
God works in mysterious ways.
I booked (paid) for the whole family. However, my daughter told me she couldn't find her passport. We turned the house upside down looking for it but couldn't find it.
My husband said maybe it was a sign from God that we should let her stay home so the trip wouldn't turn into a disaster. I ignored his comment, but later while I was cleaning his office I found the passport, tucked away in the 3rd drawer under a ton of papers.
I was floored by this, I confronted him with it, and he swore he had no idea why, or how the passport got there. I checked the upstairs camera and saw him enter my daughter's room. That was it for me, I screamed my head off at him and then canceled the whole trip completely.
He started arguing saying I overreacted and that he didn't want his kids to be 'miserable' on the trip. He said he's willing to apologize to my daughter if and when I reconsider my decision regarding the cancellation of the trip because my stepkids will be devastated, but I said it was final.
What do we think about this man of God, internet?
He became cold and distant saying that he wants to take some time to do some fasting and get guidance from God about how he should deal with the disrespect and control I had displayed lately. AITA for canceling it altogether?
ijustneedtolurk says:
Husband: turns to God because of 'your disrespect and control'
Also Husband: actively disrespects your daughter by pointedly excluding her and stealing her passport (which is ILLEGAL btw) to CONTROL her ability to go
YTA (You're the A**hole), but only because you let this man treat you and your daughter so poorly.
Uh_Cromer says:
NTA (Not the A**hole).
Your husband doesn't put God first, always. He uses God to manipulate others, which is a sin (taking the Lord's name in vain) so popular that it made the top ten list (Ten Commandments).
'My husband said maybe it was a sign from God that we should let her stay home so the trip wouldn't turn into a disaster.'
Does he think God hid the passport for him?
'I checked the upstairs camera and saw him enter my daughter's room.'
God apparently 'moved through him' to hide the passport.
'He become cold and distant and said that he wants to take some time to do some fasting and get guidance from God about how he should deal with the disrespect and control I had displayed lately.'
This is gaslighting. He wants you to think that you 'disrespecting him' (defending your daughter from a thief) is worse than him hiding her passport and lying about it.
I want to reiterate that you are NOT THE A in the slightest. Your husband is a liar, thief, hypocrite, and manipulator.
I'm an atheist, but if his God is real, he's got a special place reserved for your husband.