Woman refuses to pretend to be her identical twin to cover up cheating scandal. AITA?
"WIBTAH for not pretending to be my twin and covering up her cheating on her fiancee?"
I 24 f am an identical twin. Very few can tell me and my sister apart if you don't know us well. I'll call my sister for the sake of this post Maddison. Growing up we were poor. It was a constant struggle for my parent's.
I started working as soon I could to help contribute financially towards bills. Maddison was more focused on how she looked and to be honest a gold digger. I was more career-focused. I ended up moving to the city to live with my cousin for better job opportunities.
I ended up getting a good job and decided to stay in the city and I would send back money for my parent's and grandparents who also lives with my parent's, which allowed them to move to better housing. Or so I thought. I would vist whenever I could. Everytime I visited Maddison always had a new boyfriend. She lived with her boyfriend and according to my parent's didn't want to get a job. So she lived off the boyfriends.
4 days ago my parent's rang me up in a panic, saying they needed me to come home. I asked why and they said your sister cheated on her fiancee and we need you to cover for her. This was the first time I was hearing about Maddison being engaged. They went on to say he was rich and he had been allowing them to stay for free in one of his parent's rental properties because of Maddison.
This shocked me because they had been telling me that the money that I had been sending them was paying for the home they had been living in. After I blew up about them lying to me about the money I had been sending them and they reluctantly admitted they had been giving it to Maddison. I was so angry, I said no and ended the call.
Ever since then, my parent's and Maddison constantly tried to get in contact with me and telling me that if I don't say it was me that her fiancee caught cheating, then my parent's will be homeless and I will ruin the better life that her fiancee can provide for her and them.
I've been thinking about it alot and I don't want my grandparents to be homeless, but at the same time, I don't want to be the one to take the blame for being the one who cheated with a married man and ruin my reputation back home.
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2Whom_it_May_Concern said:
NTA Cut them out of your life. Seriously, screw them. They lied to you and took advantage of you. They are endorsing cheating and lying. They are enabling your sister and giving her YOUR money. They are trying to pressure you to lie about sleeping with someone to help your sister cheat. They are garbage. Your parents and your sister.
MajorAd2679 said:
NTA. Your parents and sister are liars, cheats, entitled and have no morals. If you go with their lies, you would be no better than them. If you have a conscience it’ll ruin you to have this big secret/lie over your head for the rest of your life.
Your parents had no problem deceiving you and giving your hard earned money for your sister to enjoy life doing nothing and f around. I would stop giving your parents money. Your sister can be homeless, it’s her mess.
If the fiancé does find out and kick them out and you want to help your parents/grandparents with a home then you choose the apartment (a 2 bedrooms apartment only for parents & grandparents) and you pay the bills directly. No more giving them a big amount of money.
Also put a rule in place that your sister can’t stay there, never! Have some security cameras installed so you can confirm she’s not living with them. If she does, let them know you’ll withdraw the money. Your money = Your rules Find your backbone and stop being taken for a fool by your parents and sister.
clearheaded01 said:
NTA. Your sister is the cause for your parents being.homeless, not you. And they decieved you by taking your money and giving it to her. Stay LC until this is settled...
Wild-Matter-3693 said:
NTA. Your parents could have save the money they got from you or give maybe a tiny bit to your twin. (rather none of it tbh, but parents like to help their children) If your parents had saved some money, they weren't dependable of the rich boyfriend.
Tell the fiance what happened, your sis doesn't deserve him. Petty revenge and horrible advice: marry the dude yourself and cut ties with your parents and sister. (honestly, don't do it, but it would make an awesome revenge).
Global_Monk_5778 said:
NTA. Cheaters sicken me. Tell the fiancé the truth, tell your parents no more money will be coming to them and cut the lot of them off. You worry about your grandparents?
Well they went along with it all - they could have picked up the phone and told you what was going on. They’re just as bad as your parents for lying about the money. They could have put a stop to it and didn’t.
True_Falsity said:
NTA. I would contact the poor guy and inform him. Also, make sure to inform your friends and close ones back home lest your parents and sister try to spread lies about you.