Woman asks if she was wrong to accuse mom of being a 'sugar baby'
Being a single mom is difficult. Single parents tend to have closer relationships to their children. That relationship is tested on a popular Reddit thread on the Am I The A**hole Subreddit, where a woman asks if she was wrong to snap at her mom and call her a 'sugar baby'.
AITA for telling my mom ''Good! Now we are both are sugar babies''?
OP's mom is a feminist icon.
My (22F) mom (37F) had me really, really young, my dad was never in the picture. She's still very beautiful and people say we ''look like sisters'', for as long as I can remember, my mom was a very hard-working and independent woman, she takes pride in not letting any men or her family have any financial chain on her, which is super awesome, I admired her until she got on her high horse.
You can teach an old dog new tricks!
My long time boyfriend (24M) comes from a very wealthy family, so he tends to shower me with gifts and surprises. My mom doesn't like it, for her, I'm always relying on his money which is not true, I have two jobs (one at school and one part-time). A few months ago, one of my cousins introduced the terms ''sugar daddy/baby'' to her, and from that moment she was sure that was my situation, which IT'S NOT.
I've tried to explain to her that my relationship is genuine, that my boyfriend and I are loving partners and that he's not my bag of money, but she doesn't understands. My boyfriend thinks I should just ignore her because we both know what's really happening behind doors but is kinda hard, I feel like she respects me less because of this.
Uh-oh, someone isn't very self-aware.
Well, she has been seeing Ben (45M) for a few months now, and he's always giving her nice stuff, flowers every week, jewelry, cards, going out to nice places, etc. My mom is really happy, and I'm happy for her. I noticed the hypocrisy but I said nothing because it wasn't my intention to bring my mom down.
Any sugar daddy would say that two sugar babies is better than one.
Yesterday, my boyfriend got us matching rings and while he was in the bathroom, my mom made a 'sugar baby' comment and like divine justice, she received flowers from Ben at the same time. There was a card saying that he'll take her some place nice and she didn't have to worry about anything aside from looking pretty. She was smiling and I said, ''Good! Now we're both sugar babies, mom'' her smile dropped, and said it wasn't funny; her situation was different. I just left with my boyfriend, but she texted me saying we need to talk and I need to apologize because ''it's not the same''.
mm172 says:
NTA (Not the a**hole). “You’re right, it’s not the same. I was just trying to make a point. You, on the other hand, have repeatedly disrespected my relationship, and I’m still waiting for my apology.”
He_Who_Is_Right says:
Your mother sowed. Your mother reaped. NTA.
ChapSteve711 says:
NTA. It is very much the same. She just doesn't want to believe it.