Woman goes to engagement party, finds out brother is marrying her high school bully.

In a perfect world, your siblings only get engaged to amazing people you want to be friends with. But reality is a different thing altogether, and sadly, sometimes siblings go for people who know how to make our lives hell.

In a popular post on the AITA subreddit, a woman asked if she's wrong for exposing the bullying nature of her future sister-in-law.

She wrote:

AITA for exposing my future sister-in-law for bullying me in high school at a family event?

In high school, I used to be friends with this girl Annika. We were close until junior year, when I discovered she had been spreading false rumors about me. However, even after I stopped being friends with her, she continued to make up lies about me and made my life hell right up until we graduated. We went to different universities and I’m in my mid-twenties now.

My older brother Carter went to the same university as Annika. Recently, he announced that he had gotten engaged to his girlfriend. Our family was happy for him, but we were surprised at the same time since we didn’t know he was dating anyone. He said he’d introduce her at an upcoming family party.

The party rolled around and guess who walked in the door with Carter? Annika. I honestly thought I was hallucinating, and I felt sick seeing her again. Carter left Annika with some relatives, then came over to me and asked to talk. We went to another room and Carter explained he’d met Annika at a party and didn’t recognize her, but it was “love at first sight.”

But after he found out her full name, he realized it was the same Annika who spread lies about me. He confronted her and she claimed to not remember me or anything she did. He let it go because he really liked her. He then pleaded with me to be nice to her since she “didn’t remember” what she had done and that she was a good person. I just told him I needed a moment to myself to process everything.

When I eventually went back to the party, I decided I would ignore her. I didn’t say anything rude, I just didn’t talk to her or acknowledge her. She didn’t talk to me or acknowledge me either. But when we sat down to eat, all hell broke loose. One of my aunts asked me how I felt about my brother getting married.

I tried changing the subject, but she kept pressing, so I eventually snapped and said something like: “I actually don’t feel great about it considering his future wife bullied me and never apologized.” Everyone turned to look at Annika. She just started crying and ran out of the room. Carter went after her, and they left early.

The rest of the night was chaotic because everyone was asking me what happened (I told them). Later, Carter called me and said I was a horrible person for embarrassing Annika in front of the whole family and I was being petty over “high school drama.” He demanded I apologize to her.

I refused and said HE was the awful one for blindsiding me with this, and that if she never bothered to reach out and apologize for what she did while they were dating, I wasn’t going to let it go now that they were engaged. He kept insisting that she didn’t remember, and she can’t apologize for something she doesn’t remember, but I think that’s bullsh**. I ended up hanging up on him.

The way I see it, I was asked a direct question and I provided a direct answer. Also, I don’t think I have any obligation to cover for her when she made my life hell, especially when she’s obviously lying about not remembering. AITA?

Edit: I can’t believe I have to add this, but random people are messaging me about privacy, so I just want to say that the names in this story are fake—I named Annika after a character in a movie and Carter after a character in a book. Please calm down.

The internet did not hold back.

Voidg wrote:

NTA.

I don't buy she doesn't remember. Plus your brother did and chose to ambush you at the family event.

lotus_eater123 wrote:

Let's assume that the fiancée really does not remember, a traumatic brain injury or something. The brother reminded her. Told her that she hurt his sister, badly. Anyone who is not a bully would have reached out and apologized BEFORE the big family meeting. Did she think that everyone would share her amnesia?

Business-Breakfast83 wrote:

Her running out crying is already showing manipulating signs. NTA, she should've apologized when she met your brother, or even at the gathering.

Straight-Singer-2912 had some clarifying questions:

NTA. I'd suggest, in very earnest seriousness, to your brother that if she does not remember, perhaps she needs a full medical workup. I mean, it's very concerning. It's concerning that your BROTHER recognized her name as your bully...so he remembered....but somehow your bully does not?

Because his next argument will be that it didn't happen, or you're too sensitive, or you can't take a joke. Do your parents remember (as clearly your brother recognized the name) Annika bullying you? Are they on your side?

And OP jumped in with answers:

My parents remember Annika and they’re mostly on my side because they witnessed firsthand how bad it was (Carter was already in college at that point). But they’re still pressuring me to apologize to keep the peace. I honestly think they’re just so excited about Carter getting married that they’re willing to look past what happened and dismiss it because it happened almost 10 years ago.

TeachingClassic5869 wrote:

'Love at first sight' translates to...I saw her from a distance and got really horny. I found out her first name and recognized it immediately, as it is a rather uncommon name. I should have known then that there might be an issue, but I was too horny to care. I didn't bother to ask my little sister, her side of the story to see how bad things were, because again…I was horny.

I chose to believe her ridiculous story about not remembering having ruined years of my little sister's life. But you don't understand, it's because this woman makes me horny. Even though I know she has the capacity to be cruel I want her to be my wife and mother of my future children, because…did I mention? She makes me really horny.

Clearly, OP is NTA, but Annika and her brother are giant ones.