Woman Snapchats jokes about needing help at party; is pissed when BIL shows up. AITA?

There are times when posting inside jokes on social media can massively backfire. If it's simply something silly, then the worst thing you risk is some confused or annoying comments.

But if the 'joke' references real-life stakes like safety, it's likely to raise concerns from people who genuinely care about you.

In a popular post on the AITA subreddit, a young woman asked if she's wrong for snapping at her brother-in-law after he tried to pick her up from a party because of her social media.

She wrote:

AITA for yelling at my BIL for following me to a party?

I'm in college finishing my first year. I moved in with my sister and her husband after losing my campus housing first semester. I try to be a good housemate but sometimes get annoyed because they try to act like my parents on occasion. Our agreement is that they're supposed to treat me like an adult roommate, not their child. Case and point.

I went to a college party Sunday night. I was also posting on SnapChat and stupidly had maps on for all my friends which includes my sister and BIL.

It was about 12 midnight or so, long after they go to bed and I posted some snaps I meant as JOKES like 'get me out of this party' 'this is the worst' 'I just want to go homeeee' because we all were doing it as like an inside joke that came out of the party but I was 100% fine. I guess my sister saw them and texted and asked if I was okay but I didn't see the text til much later. I don't mind that she did this.

Well around 1 AM who do I see walking in the door but my lovely BIL and my sister is waiting in their car. He said he saw the snaps and asked if I was okay. He also told me to give him my car key and to get an Uber home. I called him controlling and a creep for coming to a college party when he graduated years ago and is a d*mn adult man.

He wouldn't leave until I gave him my key even though I kept yelling at him. He finally left when I gave him my car key. My sister of course got pissed trying to say he was just looking out for me but I think they need to mind their business. AITA?

People did not hold back.

Usual-Caterpillar237 wrote:

YTA. OMG you LITERALLY posted, in the middle of the night, that you needed help and wanted to go home, but then DIDN'T ANSWER OR ACKNOWLEDGE the very real concern that they are facing, already thinking the absolute worst because of your gross misunderstanding of the word 'joke.'

Go apologize to them and thank them for caring enough to try and help you WHEN YOU ASKED FOR HELP. Jesus you are so inconsiderate, self absorbed, and spoiled. They did nothing wrong. You owe them a huge apology.

Grand-Corner1030 wrote:

YTA. You were drunk, so it's reasonable to get an uber home. YTA for arguing about keeping your car key while drunk...were you going to use it to drive home? Normal adults don't drunk drive or even consider it. Posting like you did is known as 'Crying Wolf.' Instantly, YTA when you do that, it's childish.

ChipmunkSweet5994 wrote:

YTA. Last time someone didn’t answer an “are you okay” text from me it turned out they had passed away, if someone did this to me I would have been LIVID, and probably would have done the same as your brother-in-law. What you are being is too selfish to realize is that they were probably worried for your safety.

You were at a party, PUBLICLY said you didn’t enjoy it, and we’re more than likely drinking… why would anyone who cared for you ignore that? Why are you still upset now that your sober that your BIL didn’t want you to drive drunk? That seems like a damn good brother-in-law.

You are acting childish, then asking to be treated like an adult. You need to look at scenarios from other people's perspectives or you will push everyone you love away from your own selfishness.

_mmiggs_ wrote:

YTA. He wasn't 'coming to the party' - he came to check up on you because you were asking for help, and he was worried about you. When he got there, he discovered that you were fine, but either drunk or high, and so demanded your keys so you wouldn't drive home under the influence. If you want to be treated like an adult, act like one.

Clearly, OP is TA and is lucky to have a sister and brother-in-law who love her enough to show up and make sure she's safe. Hopefully, the sober light of day makes that more clear.