A fight over chopsticks reveals an uncomfortable cheating truth to family. AITA?
The story of how a family finally broke.
One woman writes about how she was fed up with being insulted by her cousin and finally broke at a family dinner. What she didn't know, was that she opened the floodgates to much more cheating and betrayal that had been hidden from everyone.
AITA for “embarrassing” my cousin and getting us kicked out of a restaurant?
I F(25) don’t have kids yet. I never really wanted them growing up but I figure I’ll eventually have kids in the future once I get my life together. My cousin Sarah (29) has two badly behaved kids from a previous relationship and a newborn baby with her boyfriend MJ (40).
Last night my mother, sister, Sarah and I went to a sushi restaurant - and this was my first time having sushi. After we ordered, I had a hard time using the chopsticks. My cousin started obnoxiously laughing.
The waiter came over and asked me if I wanted “training wheels” which is a little plastic item that attaches to the chopsticks and helps you hold them in place. My cousin laughed and said “sorry about her, she constantly embarrasses herself and us.”
I just gave her the side eye and put the training wheels on. When it was time to order desserts, her boyfriend MJ finally joined us - claiming that he was “busy.”
She went on to tell him how “stupid” and “slow” I was for not knowing how to use chopsticks and how the waiters and everyone around now know that I’m an embarrassment. My mom asked her what her problem was and she goes on a rant about how I’m so embarrassing and it’s no wonder I’m “jealous of her being a mother” and “no one wants to have kids with me.”
I finally had enough. I said “I don’t have kids because I don’t want them to come out like your rude pieces of sh*t” and “you’re calling me an embarrassment? Didn’t MJ just have a baby with you while he was still with his wife? Your baby literally has a sibling a week apart from her. You probably learned how to use chopsticks by eating his wife’s leftovers.”
I guess when she was attacking me it was fine because everyone turned on me. It got so loud that management had to get involved. Sarah was screaming and crying, MJ was yelling at me, and my mom and sister were berating me for being “mean.”
Management brought the bill and told us to please pay it and leave. My mom paid the entire bill but my sister said I’m an AH for embarrassing Sarah and getting us kicked out - and how she’s probably going through postpartum depression.
Now…idk if I went too far seeing as she’s probably going through some post baby stress. AITA?
This post sort of blew up and the OP responded less than 2 hours later.
Thank you all for the overwhelming responses! I’ve been wanting to put Sarah in her place for a while now - and I’m glad I did! However, Sarah’s mom got involved and is mad at me.
Apparently, MJ told Sarah that he and his wife were separating. Sarah found out that he lied because she was secretly stalking his wife’s Facebook page - and got the shock of her life when wifey posted a newborn baby and MJ was there for the birth.
Sarah did the math and realized that he got both of them pregnant the week of his birthday. She confronted him and he confirmed it. He also said that she’ll have to get over it or he’ll leave. So, she stayed and is now constantly in shambles. Not my problem.
Now onto the problem. She kept the wife’s baby a secret and only told her mom, who told my mom, who told my sister and I. So, they said that they were pissed because I wasn’t supposed to repeat it.
BUT I DIDN’T KNOW IT WAS CLASSIFIED INFORMATION. After like a week, that’s all everyone talked about.
Sarah’s mom (my aunt) reached out to me this morning and she said that Sarah’s problem with me is that I always said I don’t like kids and only a “horrible person” won’t like kids - and that I was mean to her about her kids 2 months ago.
2 months ago she wanted to go to a party with MJ and asked me to watch her kids. ALL THREE OF THEM. FOR FREE. I told her no because they’re untrained, I don’t feel comfortable watching a newborn - and she’ll have to pay me to put up with the other two. So, I guess that’s why she’s still holding grudges.
Regardless, Sarah’s mom said she was having a really hard time after finding out about the “outside” baby (who technically is the inside baby as Sarah’s baby is the outside baby but whatever) and she wants me to apologize for putting her business out there for everyone.
She got my mom and sister involved so I just called Sarah and apologized. She just said “I don’t care what you have to say” and hung up.
Regardless. I held up my end of the bargain. Hopefully this gets blown over soon because ya girl is TIRED.
Woof, right?
Here were the top comments from readers:
As someone who has suffered from severe PPD, I don’t recall being mean as a snake being a f*cking symptom.
Same. I cried, over and under slept and struggled to eat almost the entire time. I know everyone is diff but whew.
“You probably learned how to use chopsticks by eating his wife’s leftovers” Emotional damage!!! Lol
Why do so many people with kids think every single non parent envies them and is jealous? I have kids, but I can 100% understand anyone not choosing to.
Its not that my kids are nightmares, they are all average and ‘normal’ but to pretend being a parent isn’t the most body changing, relationship challenging, expensive, exhausting, worrying, thankless, stressful choice one can make is insanity.
INFO Wait! Is her boyfriend married? Did he leave his wife for your cousin? That's on a whole other level! If either is the case, she deserves to always feel embarrassed!
If you really said the chopsticks burn, off the cuff and in real time; you’ll never be the AH to me.