Woman makes 'rude' and 'embarrassing' joke about MIL; is told 'she took it too far.'
AITA for telling my husband's parents to stop telling people my name is Katherine and for embarrassing them in front of friends?
My name is Rynn. Just Rynn. Not Katherine. But ever since my ILs have met me, they have gotten the idea that my actual name is Katherine and Rynn is just a nickname. I have asked them not to introduce me or tell people it's my name but they always go back to it.
My husband and I took a small break from them when it continued and they apologized and seemed to be doing better. Then for my MILs birthday we were invited to celebrate with them and a couple of her friends came up to me and asked if I was Katherine. They said MIL talked all about me.
I decided to get a little bit jokey instead of annoyed and played up on it saying MIL is so forgetful and that I was so sorry she told them the wrong name. That I'll need to write my name on everything she owns so they don't forget. Her friends found it funny but told her it was weird that she gave them the wrong name.
She and FIL came up to me close to the end of the party and I told them to stop telling people my name is Katherine and they need to accept that my name isn't up to them.
They claim I was rude and that it was awful for me to try and embarrass them in front of their friends (by joking with MILs friends). My husband told them they should have listened. But they are saying I took it too far and maybe I did. AITA?
OP responds to comments:
I'll bet your name is actually Katherine.
The name on my birth certificate is Rynn. It's on my drivers license, passport and is the name I used when I got married. My name has never been Katherine and I have always introduced myself by Rynn.
That's not a human name. You're not a character from Lord of The Rings.
I'm glad my parents gave me my name. I love it. Always have. Always was proud of it too.
I don't like the name Rynn.
I'm glad my parents gave me my name. I love it. Always have. Always was proud of it too.
Is it an Irish name?
It is! It's pronounced Rin/Rinn.
Did you elope?
Nope. And I was called Rynn during our wedding.
How old is your MIL?
She's 60 and both she and my FIL seem to still do it so I don't know that it's the problem. I think it's just they dislike my actual name.
Here's how people judged OP:
Professional_Ad9013 writes:
How are they unaware that they're embarrassing both you and themselves in front of their friends? It's a basic of decent manners to get people's names right, to the best of one's abilities, whenever possible. NTA, Rynn. I like your sense of humor.
Trini1113 writes:
You could always just add 'Kath' to the front of their names. 'Hi everyone, I'd like you to meet my MIL, Kathmargaret, and FIL, Katherobert. And this is their dog, Kathfido.'
InfamousJob8057 writes:
It is a Kathastrophe.
goober2143 writes:
Whatta couple of kathholes!
Taotastic writes:
This thread is very kathartic.
Stormfeathery writes:
And also NTA - At some point something's gotta give, sounds like before it was just going LC or NC for a bit, other choices are humor or just completely going off on them. You're taking the high road and if they don't want the very mild corrective courses you're taking, it's on them to actually *get your name right*.