Woman snaps on cousin who claims she's 'jealous' of her, 'I don't wanna have rude kids.'
Hell hath no fury quite like drama between extended family. When the tension comes to a boil, sometimes all that's left is a screaming match and some deeply unsavory words. And when the brutally honest feelings come pouring out, it can get real ugly, real quick.
In a popular post on the AITA subreddit, a woman asked if she was wrong for snapping on her cousin and getting them kicked out of a restaurant.
She wrote:
'AITA for 'embarrassing' my cousin and getting us kicked out of a restaurant?'
I F(25) don’t have kids yet. I never really wanted them growing up but I figure I’ll eventually have kids in the future once I get my life together. My cousin Sarah (29) has two badly behaved kids from a previous relationship and a newborn baby with her boyfriend MJ (40).
Last night my mother, sister, Sarah and I went to a sushi restaurant - and this was my first time having sushi. After we ordered, I had a hard time using the chopsticks. My cousin started obnoxiously laughing. The waiter came over and asked me if I wanted “training wheels” which is a little plastic item that attaches to the chopsticks and helps you hold them in place.
My cousin laughed and said “sorry about her, she constantly embarrasses herself and us.” I just gave her the side eye and put the training wheels on. When it was time to order desserts, her boyfriend MJ finally joined us - claiming that he was “busy.”
She went on to tell him how “stupid” and “slow” I was for not knowing how to use chopsticks and how the waiters and everyone around now know that I’m an embarrassment. My mom asked her what her problem was and she goes on a rant about how I’m so embarrassing and it’s no wonder I’m “jealous of her being a mother” and “no one wants to have kids with me.”
I finally had enough. I said “I don’t have kids because I don’t want them to come out like your rude pieces of s**t” and “you’re calling me an embarrassment? Didn’t MJ just have a baby on you with his wife? Your baby literally has a sibling a week apart from her. You probably learned how to use chopsticks by eating his wife’s leftovers.”
I guess when she was attacking me it was fine because everyone turned on me. It got so loud that management had to get involved. Sarah was screaming and crying, MJ was yelling at me, and my mom and sister were berating me for being “mean.”
Management brought the bill and told us to please pay it and leave. My mom paid the entire bill but my sister said I’m an AH for embarrassing Sarah and getting us kicked out - and how she’s probably going through postpartum depression. Now…idk if I went too far seeing as she’s probably going through some post-baby stress. AITA?
The internet had ample opinions about this hot mess of a situation.
QuesoDelDiablos wrote:
“You probably learned how to use chopsticks by eating his wife’s leftovers.”
You are my new spirit animal. NTA.
rapt2right wrote:
ESH- you suck least & I probably would have lost my shit, too, in your shoes (in which case I, too, would suck). Your relatives kinda had it coming but nobody else did. My God. What a dreadful scene. I feel awful for the other diners , many of whom were probably honoring Mothers Day a night early, if you are in the US.
You should probably give some real consideration to avoiding being in public with these people. (Maybe avoid them altogether, they don't sound like they bring anything good to your life) (Oh, and totally not the point but chopsticks are super easy once you have the hang of them- there's a learning curve but then all the sudden, you know how.
Either go out with nicer people who will coach you instead of harassing you or fiddle with it at home. Even if it doesn't come up often, it's one of those things that is nice to be able to do confidently). Edit to add- I can't approve of the airing of dirty laundry but I can and do applaud your line about how she learned to use chopsticks- magnificently brutal.
usemepls88 wrote:
NTA. it needed to be said. you were literally defending yourself after being berated all night. yes, she probably is going through post-partum but that still doesn’t excuse the fact that she was being cruel.
You shouldn’t have to put up with that. especially since you were just trying have quality time with YOUR family. I can understand it seeming mean, as some of what you said was :0 But it sounded like she needed a reality check.
FancyPantsDancer wrote:
ESH. Mildly, you for taking it as far as you did and not just skipping dinner with Sarah or leaving when she started; I'm guessing that this isn't the first time she was an AH. I don't blame you for being upset, but I think it would've been better to leave. Ultimately, Sarah was the big AH in this one. Your mother and sister are AHs for not having your back and making excuses for Sarah.
While the internet jury is leaning more towards YTA than ESH, it's clear these family members should not be going out to dinner with each other again any time soon.