Man will only eat his mom's food, even when wife insists on cooking.

Domestic duties can be a huge source of domestic disputes. But what happens when a husband wants... less from his wife? And why shouldn't he? When he already has a perfectly capable mother.

Yes, you read that right. When a new wife found herself in a strange predicament, she was determined to get through it on top. She tried something... but then it backfired. So, she (u/Throwaway5756346) took to Reddit to ask:

'AITA (Am I the as*hole) for tricking my husband into eating the food I cooked by making him think his mom sent it?'

My husband 'Mickey' loves his mom's cooking. He always praises her for the food she makes and even mentioned it in his groom speech at the wedding!

I consider myself a good cook. In fact, I'm going to just say that I'm even better than his mom. But the problem is he doesn't even want to try my cooking or give me a chance to prove it, I thought this would change after marriage but 5 months later nothing's changed.

What does he eat if he's not eating what I'm cooking? He has requested that his mom send him a meal everyday to eat for dinner after getting off work except for the weekend where we go over to her house and eats breakfast, lunch, dinner and DESSERT there.

Every single day he'd come home and ask if his mom sent him a meal. I grew irritated of this and whenever I try to offer him to taste any of the (wasted) food I cook, he'd lay in bed and say he's full.

So I came up with an idea. I cooked him the same meal his mom sent him that day and put it aside til he got home. He asked if his mom sent a meal for dinner and I said yes and served him my own version of the meal - not hers. He didn't notice anything different.

He ate the whole thing with no hesitation while I sat across from him asking him questions about how good the meal was. He went on and on praising it saying how perfect, exceptional it was, and how it was just what he needed after a long day at work.

I smiled and said 'You're welcome'. He froze and looked at me for a minute. Looked down at the plate then back at me and said 'wait, you made this didn't you?' I said 'With my own hand and from scratch'.

His face suddenly went red and he got upset and said that this was not cool. I told him he never even gave me a chance to show him how good my cooking is and that he's probably just used to his mom's cooking and is rejecting any other alternatives which's unfair to me.

He said that I shouldn't have lied to him and basically tricked him into eating food that he had no idea where it came from. I said he liked it and admitted that it was good so what's the issue. He got up from his seat, threw the napkin and said that I was unbelievable then walked out.

He got quiet the rest of the evening then posted about it on his FB in a vague post about being tricked into eating 'someone's' food like that.

I felt guilty and bad thinking maybe I really shouldn't have done this but I was frustrated with how he kept turning down every meal I tried to cook him and then say 'No thanks, I prefer mom's food'. AITA (Am I the as*hole)?

So, what do you think? Was OP wrong for lying? Or is this situation just way too insane to resort to anything else (except divorce)?

Reddit had more questions than answers on this one, but most everyone agrees that OP is not the as*hole. But that doesn't mean OP isn't in for a rude awakening...

Swegh_ asks:

Info - why would you marry someone who refuses to eat your food and makes his mother make him dinner everyday?

tawny-she-wolf agrees:

This is the real question here, how was he able to stand at the altar with that umbilical cord still attached?

your-yogurt writes:

did they even go honeymoon? was mom over every day, even on days like anniversaries? what if op wanted to go a nice restaurant? a friend's house for dinner? what happened during lockdown?

Blonde2468 comments:

NTA (Not the as*hole). First of all STOP GOING TO HIS MOTHERS EVERY WEEKEND TO EAT!!! He can if he wants to but you don’t need too!! Come on girl, have some respect for your self!! Let his mother freaking cook for him and be free of that chore.

What you don’t see is that he is manipulating you - he is letting you know every single day that you are not good enough for him. He prefers his mother over you. He is doing this to destroy your self esteem and he does it on purpose.

sleepwithtelevision says:

Who mentions their mother’s cooking in their groom speech?? Also, whose mother is making their grown children dinner and sending it over every single night? This whole situation is so weird.

Spuckleford writes:

Usually I give a hard pass to food deception but you were driven to extremes. NTA. You know, in a lot of relationships, wives would love not having to cook for their husbands, but you, ma'am, are living in a creative new version of domestic hell.

Well, it looks like this is less of a marriage and more of a woman coming between son and mother.

And if OP's cooking is really that good, it should be a problem finding someone grateful to feed. Good luck out there!