'AITA for walking out of my husband's birthday party after he started laughing at me?'
"AITA for walking out of my husband's birthday party after he started laughing at me?"
I f32 just completed my treatment for a medical issue that affected my body. I had gained weight due to this medical condition and also the medication, and none of my old clothes were fitting anymore.
I bought new fitting clothes but for my husband's birthday party, but he asked me to wear one of my old dresses that was one of his favorites. To appease him I said yes, although I didn't feel comfortable wearing it especially after the weight gain.
He was at the restaurant with his family and friends when I arrived with my sister. As soon as he saw me walking in, he busted out laughing....he pointed at the dress and was going hysterical saying 'oh my God' I felt so incredibly mad.
Especially when the others started laughing as well. One of his friends started whistling in a mocking tone. I turned around instantly and walked out and my sister followed me. I went home and cried a little but he kept calling non stop.
He came home and started talking about how oversensitive I was and that 'it was just a natural reaction' he had upon seeing me in this dress again after all this time. He said I overreacted and made a scene over nothing. He also said I ruined his birthday and urged me to get therapy for this oversensitivity that I'm inflicting upon him.
AITA? Did I overreact? He's so upset he refused to even receive the gift.
Edit!
I need to explain the way he laughed more. He first started giggling and tried to cover his mouth then, in a matter of seconds he burst out laughing. In the middle of the restaurant.
The guests were confused then they must've understood why he was laughing because they joined in and his friend whistled at me mockingly while repeatedly turning his head like something caught his 'attention'. Could it be the I overreacted?
It could be just me getting overwhelmed because joking and laughing is not new when it comes to him. He's the kind to tease about any and everything, even with family. The kids also. He also said he was 'caught off guard,' and so I shouldn't blame him for his reaction.
Comments:
He pushed you to wear the dress even though you didn’t want to. He made fun of you when you wore said dress. He stood by as you were publicly humiliated. He didn’t follow you when you walked out and belittled your feelings.
He told you to go to therapy - not so that you’re happier but so you can stop annoying him. He tears you down physically and emotionally. He denies any wrongdoing and blames only you. Why are you with him? NTA.
catculture8 says:
OP- you need to lose the deadweight that is this AH. Your life will be so much better. NTA but you will be if you let yourself stay with a person who disrespects you.
tinaciv says:
If he deserved forgiveness OP he would've followed you when you left, told his friends to cut it out because it wasn't funny, PROFUSELY APOLOGIZED for hurting you.
He might've explained why it happened and that he didn't mean to hurt you, but emphasize that it was his fault, he is sorry and it won't happen again. Probably say something about how beautiful you are and how attracted to you he is. That would be the reaction of someone who loves you.
Prestigious_Isopod72 says:
'You're just being too sensitive' is a common defense bullies use when they are called out on their behavior. OP, you're NTA.
zwergschnauzer says:
NTA. Hope he doesn't overreact when you serve this AH with divorce papers.
Status-Pattern7539 says:
NTA. You need therapy, that’s right, but not for your overs sensitivity…but for your own sake/ self esteem/ emotional trauma your husband is subjecting you to. His reaction was completely unjustified. This was bound to happen. He guilted you into wearing something you weren’t comfortable in/ he knew you didn’t fit.