Woman discovers husband charging her $500/mo rent is secretly a millionaire. Updated!
A women asks for advice from the TrueOffMyChest sub Reddit after finding out her cheap husband is actually really rich. Here's her story...
I (26f) met my now husband (25m) 4 years ago online. He was a student at university and I was working full time as a medical tech. He was very hard working, ambitious, goal-oriented person these are some of qualities that were attractive to me.
He’s an immigrant and I knew his family had financial struggles. I was impressed by how far he’s come. Soon we started dating, and 2 years ago we got married.
He graduated from college and found a job at a tech company and he would work from home while I’d work 12 hour days on-site. I’d ask about his salary and he would tell me it’s $60k. I didn’t think of it much and continued with life. I only made $20/hr and I have lots of loans that I usually pay.
Fast forward one year, he moved to a new city, and I was struggling to find job in the new city, so I stayed back for 3 months. After 3 months, he surprises me with a house that is in his name only. He would never talk to me about his finances, or explain how he got loan for $400k house on $60k salary. I still didn’t pay attention and since in our marriage he’s the one talking care of finances and taxes etc.
I wanted to purchase a house for my mother and sister. I found the perfect house and my bank requested my tax returns for last 3 years. I asked my husband to send them to me, but he insisted that he’d like to talk to bank, or he would handle the situation and would try to convince me that his bank is better than mine.
I had already locked down on this deal and I wasn’t going to switch. So finally, after a lot of argument he sent me the tax returns. And, the tax return income for last year was a whopping $1.8M and my contribution was $38K.
All this time, he would fight with me for small and little expenses. He bought 2007 beater Toyota with MY money and he still charges me $500 every month. I don’t understand HOW he got so much money and Why he tried to hide it from me.
Since I found out, he told me his bank is empty, he spent it all, sent it back home to his parents etc. I am lost and I have a lot of questions.
Edits from OP:
I couldn’t read all the comments. But, I can answer few questions before I go to work. I will post more update later.
I said, I made 38K last year doesn’t mean I make the same now. I make around $50K and I wanted buy one small house for my mother and 6 yr old sister in a LCOL area.
Yes, i bought him his first and only car 3 years ago and he hasn’t returned me any money yet.
Comments from the original post:
mmihalecz writes:
Did he need to marry you to stay in this country?
hrowawayhdjw OP responded:
Could be? I am not sure anymore. We had/have a very good relationship, he’s loving and caring and all that but I can’t digest why he hid such a huge thing from me.
Psychological-Art368 writes:
Op get a lawyer and a forensic accountant. Don’t take what he says at face value . He’s already lied.
IllustriousAgent5864 writes:
Yeah, this dudes a jerk. He should've been helping you if he loved you instead of being a parasite. Red Flag Red Flags everywhere.
'Since last post gained lots of traction, here an update:'
First of all, I’d like to thank you all for encouraging me to speak up of my right. Since then we had some discussion, and we’ve come to an alignment.
As I had mentioned earlier, we both love and care for each other. So, I’d have hard time leaving him. I know people asked to get divorce and lawyer up etc etc but I didn’t want to make it messy.
He was very vague about the source of the money but pointed out that he owned an LLC that was acquired or merger?! Anyway, the important thing here is he agreed to fund 50% of the house that I was planning to buy for my mother and promised me a new G wagon.
I know I’m gonna lot of hate for this, but I think communication works most of the time. Also, he’s got potential to go great things 5-10 years down the line. I wouldn’t want to leave him high and dry.
I feel like I am worth way more than $900K. I provided him with the right energy and home atmosphere hence he was able to do what he does. So, me being with him is only going to help him in future.
Comments from the update:
Marshall_InTheDoor writes:
WTF kind of marriage do y'all have? This sounds like you both using each other, DON'T EVER, EVER BRING KIDS INTO THIS TOXIC MESS. You don't now where his money comes from?! Is it legal?
How is this talked through! He waved a house and G-wagon in front of you so there you go problem solved!?!? If he cheats and buys you another g-wagon it will be okay? Did you sign a prenup? cuz if you didn't yeah this works out great for him.
Maru3792648 writes:
God… please have some self respect. Sorry, but you forgiving him for half a house is absolutely pathetic. This is an unhealthy relationship and he has lied to you and abused you financially repeatedly. Are you SO afraid of being alone that you are willing to put up with this?
Practical-Whole3040 writes:
So you still don't know where the money comes from and you decided to sell your dignity for half a house and a g wagon. You're a moron. Keep playing stupid games and don't get mad when you inevitably win stupid prizes lmao.
boredonthemoon writes:
Not only does she not know, she doesn't care. 'The important thing' is that he's funding 50% of the house and buying her a car. Although that's not really enough, because she feels she's worth more than that as she, somehow, thinks her ambitious, driven, hard working other half wouldn't have been successful had it not been for the 'atmosphere' she created.