Parents disgusted when son calls girlfriend 'Mommy,' say it's 'too kinky.' AITA?
'AITA for calling my girlfriend mommy?'
Don't judge me for what I call my girlfriend in bed. Anyways, today is Mother's Day and I had a big lunch with my parents, my girlfriend's parents and our siblings. I bought for my mom a nice gift and also bought for my girlfriend's mom a gift and they loved it.
This weekend, as you all know, the new Legend of Zelda came out and my girlfriend has been talking about it the entire time. She hasn't gotten it yet so I decided to get it for her as a gift.
During lunch, when I was giving my gifts to my mom and my girlfriend's mom, I also gave Zelda to my girlfriend by saying 'Here's your gift mommy'. Everyone laughed and my girlfriend was really really happy about it.
However, on the way home, my parents were not happy that I called my girlfriend mommy and told me to keep my kinks to myself and my girlfriend and not involve the whole family in our sex life.
I personally said it as a joke and people did laugh, including my girlfriend and her parents. So, am I in the wrong here and should I have not done what I did?
I just wanted to make a joke since I was giving her a gift that coincided with Mother's day. For what it is worth, my parents said it was funny but just know my audience and it was alright since everyone there was chill with it.
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YTA. It’s clear that she’s no one’s mother — pet or human! - so the crowd probably picked up immediately that this was a “special” nickname that you use in private. It doesn’t take a genius to make the link here, either, and you decided to use Mother’s Day to let the world know you’ve got this kink.
This isn’t like other pet names, either. It’s not a term of endearment the way honey & sweetie are; it’s a title.. for the woman who wipes your ass as a baby & does everything for you. My personal opinion is that it’s a little… incest-y to associate sexual attraction to motherhood, but I would never tell someone not to use these terms in the privacy of their own bedroom.
Out in public? Nobody wants to know your sexual dynamic, and it’s inappropriate to involve them.
NAH.
You just made a silly joke. They should get over it.
'However, on the way home, my parents were not happy that I called my girlfriend mommy and told me to keep my kinks to myself and my girlfriend and not involve the whole family in our sex life. I personally said it as a joke and people did laugh, including my girlfriend and her parents. So, am I in the wrong here and should I have not done what I did?'
Sorry, YTA. First, I'm not judging you for what you call your girlfriend in bed. For whatever reason, your parents read through you and knew there was more to your 'joke'.
I agree with your parents that 'mommy' is more of a kink name than a pet name, and thus something that should be covered up from polite company. And I think you were playing with fire by saying it publicly and trying to pass it off as played straight (as a joke).
Exactly what your mom say, don't bring your parents - or any other UNCONSENTING people into your sex life. YTA.
NTA i don't think calling your gf mommy in the context of it's mother's day, your giving gifts to the moms and have one for her too, says anything about your sex life. sheesh.
So do you think his parents overreacted or was it maybe not appropriate?