Grandma tells son he's spoiling his daughter; he says, 'don't tell me how to parent.'
When this grandma is weirded out by her son's parenting, she asks Reddit:
'AITA for telling my son he is spoiling his daughter?'
My son has a 10 years old daughter. A while ago they were doing some repairs at home and had to stay with us for a few weeks. I noticed that every day he will pack lunch for her and not just that, he will also make different shapes and faces with the food. It takes up a lot of his time.
If she was 5 this would be understandable but she is 10, she should be packing her own lunch. She is, in fact, very rude and talks back a lot. After a few days I decided to talk to him and told him I think he is spoiling her and should let her pack her own lunch. He got angry and called me an asshole and basically implied that it's none of my business.
Yes there is nothing wrong with showing love but he is doing way too much. A 10 years old should be able to pack her own lunch. Hugs are fine but does she really need to be cuddling with him all day? AITA?
Let's find out.
squidees writes:
Agree. Op YTA. Also, I was not packing my lunch at 10 wtf… (doesn’t mean I couldn’t have, but it would’ve consisted of like, sliced cheese, pretzels, and chewy chocolate chips granola bars only.)
redcore8 writes:
If this is the only example of spoiling then YTA - unless he’s also doing up her shoes, helping her dress, doing her homework for her (or allowing her to skip it), refusing to insist she learn and use manners when talking to others or giving her lavish gifts on a regular basis then this isn’t a spoiled child, it’s a single gesture of care from a loving parent.
hollifo writes:
YTA - It IS none of your business. It's an act of love, not of spoiling. If you think that making a 10 year old lunch is 'spoiling' then I can imagine what a loveless childhood your son must have felt he had.