Woman asks if she's wrong to help 'shake down' her friend's shady maid of honor.
When this woman helps her mom get a dress back, she asks Reddit:
'AITA for helping my best friend's mom get money from her daughter's shady maid of honor?'
I (F25) was helping my best friends mom (F65ish) around the house because she has a hard time walking and my best friend (F25) is pregnant and she was told by her doctor that she can’t do much. And I will be using fake names for privacy reasons.
Long story short the reason why we aren’t friends with Karen (f24) because she was talking bad behind my back and Renee (best friend) stood up for me and I confronted karen which resulted us being kicked out of Karen’s wedding and not being friends.
When Renee got married karen was her maid of honor, Karen’s dress was $200 and she said via text that she would pay Renee’s mom back. She did not even attempt to make a payment. So when I was helping Renee’s mom out, she tried calling karen but Karen did not answer, so she told me to text her on her phone because she can hardly see, and wanted me to read the texts back.
So she told me to text her saying “hello this is (her name) and I’m wondering when I will be receiving my money back for your maid of honor dress. And the money from the bachelorette party” (That’s not the full text it was just paraphrasing it).
We get a text back from Karen and she did not mention her dress instead she was attacking me saying “WHAT ABOUT THE NECKLACE SHE STOLE FROM ME? AND WHAT MONEY DO I OWE FROM THE BACHELORETTE PARTY” (for context she was short $100 for the party that she planned out, and the necklace she let me borrow for Renee’s wedding but I forgot to give it back to her and told her to come by and pick it up).
Then her husband (M23) calls us saying that we need to stop harassing her family, and Renee’s mom wasn’t aware of the drama that Karen caused but knew we weren’t friends anymore. And the husband said that since there was no contract then karen doesn’t owe anyone money. (Which is dumb because who would make a contract about a dress??) and Renee’s mom trusted karen at the time to pay her back.
And her husband said that I can keep the necklace cause he doesn’t want Renee’s husband to drop it off at his place cause he said he would call the cops and file a police report and press charges because apparently Renee’s husband threatened karen on Snapchat which he never did. He showed us the messages.
So am I the asshole for texting my former friend on my best friends moms phone because she asked me to because she has a hard time seeing? I will add that I did read all texts to her before I sent and she was okay with, there was no harassment or name calling. AITA?
Let's find out.
incoherentaura writes:
NTA for texting on someone else's phone with their consent. I don't understand why you expect her to pay for the wedding items for your friend's wedding though. Also, make sure the necklace is handed to police otherwise they will use it against you and your friends. Document the threat to call the police if it was dropped off.
comfortabltydumb writes:
I don't see how you could possible be the AH here. You're NTA at all.