Daughter asks if she's wrong for refusing to accept dad's baby from mistress.
It's hard when your dad cheats. But what if he has a BABY with his affair lady? When just this happens to a teenage girl, she takes to the popular Reddit forum to ask:
"AITA for not wanting to see my dads affair baby?"
I (f16) will admit I have and always will have a close relationship with my mom (f40) she is truly a amazing women. She has a great job and is honestly beautiful. Yet about a year ago we found out my dad (m42)is having a affair with a women who is now 26 she is only 10 years older then me. Her and I have less of a age gap then my dad and her have.
My mom even though she was upset she has never trash talked my dad. I am so upset though it would have been one thing for him to ask for a divorce instead he cheated with someone much younger then him.
Him and his affair moved about 2 hours away. I have seen him about 5 times since this all happened a year ago. I act pleasant when I see them, but things are awkward and my dad and I’s relationship is clearly strained.
So my dad’s affair is pregnant. He called me yesterday and asking if I wanted to go to the gender reveal party next weekend. I told him no. He asked why I said I didn’t want to talk about it. He kept pushing me going saying how the baby will be my little sibling. I don't see it as a person.
I got annoyed and went off. I told him how It would have been one thing for him to get a divorce from mom but you didn’t have the guts for that so instead you have a affair.
So no I’m not going to accept your little affair baby as a sibling. He called me a immature brat. He later texted my mom complaining about how immature I am and how I need to grow up and accept that (his mistress name) and the baby is going to be part of my family. AITA?
Let's see...
Curiousone4595 writes:
YTA. You don’t have to have a relationship with your half-sibling if you don’t want to. But please don’t dehumanize him or her by referring to them as an “affair baby”. He or she is a little human being, not a scarlet letter.
mixedbag34 writes:
NTA but in many years time if your half sibling tries to reach out to you, try not to project your hatred of your dad and his affair partner onto them - none of this is your half sibling's fault.
elizadoo writes:
NTA. I'm really sorry you're going through this experience. It really sucks and you are being put into a pretty awful position. Of course you reacted and exploded when he wasn't listening to or considering your feelings about this. He wants you to not be upset with him so he's pushing you to overstep the boundary of what makes you comfortable.