Woman goes to BF's thanksgiving so she's not 'taken advantage of' at her own family's.
When this young woman is fed up with her family, she asks Reddit:
'AITA for not going to thanksgivings because I know I’ll be stuck being the babysitter?'
I’m the youngest cousin in the family by a lot ( I was a surprise/mistake) All of my older cousins have kids.
Every thanksgiving we go to my aunts house my cousins put their kids in the playroom and start drinking and I get stuck watching the kids all day. I just feel like I'm being taken advantage of.
Anytime one cries or has to go for the bathroom or any of them fight I get stuck dealing with it. They also sit my at the kids table.
I complain to my mom every year and she just tells me it’s not like that and is it a big deal to give the parents the day off. I don’t look forward to thanksgiving anymore because it happens every year.
My boyfriend inviting me to his family thanksgiving this year and I decided to go. I told my mom and she is flipping out telling me it will break her heart to not have me there for thanksgiving and everyone will miss me.
I just want to enjoy thanksgiving this year. I’m 22F for everyone asking.
Let's find out.
jesteryorrick writes:
NTA-- She had years to listen to you, and now she's reaping what she sowed. She's being kind of dim if she doesn't give you any options and then it's surprised when you take one when somebody else offers.
accomplishedgroup62 writes:
Mom pretty much gave herself away when she asked if it was a big deal to give parents the day off. Here’s an idea OP. If your mom asks you that again, just tell her “if it isn’t, then you should have no issue volunteering this year”.
It IS wrong of her to volunteer you to do it without your consent. If your extended family is typical to those we hear about here and give you grief, tell them exactly why you don’t want to attend.
Also, when my family used to spend holidays with relatives, I started sitting with the grown ups by my later years of high school. It’s definitely not acceptable to put you at the kid’s table.
Go to your boyfriend’s and if he ends up being the one, keep spending it with his family until yours is actually willing to change. NTA. At. All.