'AITA for telling my golden-child sister that gender reveal parties are tacky?'
"AITA for telling my golden-child sister that gender reveal parties are tacky?"
My sister (25f) has always been a bit of an attention seeker. She would always announce her grades, new jobs, raises, etc. whenever the family was together. It killed me when she used to tell the entire family she got a 100 on her test in a class that we were taking together even though she knew I only got a C- or D+ and they would ask me how I did after her announcement.
She was always the golden child and I (26f) was the screw-up. We're both pregnant right now, both of our first kids. She's married with a great job and a house and I'm on my own in a studio right now. A couple of weeks ago I got an invitation to her gender reveal barbecue/pool party. I didn't want to deal with her showing off to the entire family in front of me so I told her I won't be coming.
She asked why so I told her that I didn't want to deal with her friends and our family. She insisted it would be fun so I told her that gender reveal parties are tacky and I don't want to deal with it. She, again, insisted that it would be fun and just to think of it as a barbecue with colored cookies.
I snapped at her that I didn't want to go to a stupid party to watch her show off to our family just like she did when we were younger. She hung up on me and now our parents are upset at me for being rude to her.
Here's what people had to say to OP:
YTA. Gender reveal parties are pretty common these days, it's not like she is doing anything out of the ordinary. Don't go if you don't want to, but the comments are just bitter and jealous.
aitagender-reveal OP responded:
So you're telling me you've never had a sibling announce they they got a 100 on a test even though they know you failed and you'll be asked how you did after everyone's done applauding them or telling everyone how they just got a promotion when they know you just lost your job?
So she should have to hide her accomplishments to make you feel better? She should absolutely be allowed to tell her family that she got 100% on her test. How you did isn’t relevant. Her knowing how you did isn’t relevant. She shouldn’t have to hide her accomplishments or make herself small to make you feel better.
Get over yourself. The world doesn’t revolve around you.
Acrobatic-Bit4846 wrote:
YTA - your sister is sharing her life milestones with her family, that’s not attention seeking at all. Stop being jealous and bitter.
Disastrous-Nail-640 wrote:
YTA. Your example isn’t an indicator of a golden child btw. It’s completely normal for a child to want their parents to know they did well. You expected her to hide her accomplishments because you didn’t do as well? And you think she’s the problem?
Talk about jealous and selfish. I don’t like gender reveal parties either. But this has nothing to do with that and everything to do with your jealousy. Grow up.
Strange-Badger7263 wrote:
YTA. There was no need to insult her you could have just stuck with I don’t want to go. I agree with your sentiment that’s gender reveals are dumb but she doesn’t. If you can’t say something nice don’t say anything at all.
Tdluxon wrote:
YTA. Gender reveal parties are pretty common these days, it's not like she is doing anything out of the ordinary. Don't go if you don't want to, but the comments are just bitter and jealous.
aitagender-reveal OP responded:
Them being common doesn't mean they don't suck. A pilot just died during a gender reveal party. Nobody cares whether she's having a boy or a girl.
While this is true, OP also says in the post that the sister is having cookies. I think gender reveal parties are stupid and often dangerous, but ffs it's a food party that has color-themed cookies.