Guy asks if he's wrong for letting dad make him choose job over child's birth.
In a post on Reddit a new father was put in a terrible position, and now people are mad at him. Here's his story. See what you think.
For a little background information I (28M) have a beautiful wife (27F) we’ve been trying for a baby for about 3 years now and have known each other since we were in high school. When my wife found out she was pregnant we were thrilled and have been getting prepared for months now, shes (9 months pregnant).
My dad is a real a$$hole, but he keeps me employed. He owns a pretty nice Italian restaurant that has been run by my family for decades. I’ve worked there since i was about 15 and I am now head chef. The problem is he treats his employees pretty bad (including me) and if you even miss one shift you get demoted or even worse fired.
I was in the middle of a very hectic shift on the busiest day of the week when my MIL called saying my wife went into labor and I needed to get to the hospital right away.
When I asked my dad if I could go he said “You can go if your ok with being unemployed” which I couldn't risk because after the baby was born my wife would be off work for quite a while to be a stay at home mom. The reason my dad was so mad at the idea of me leaving was because he was understaffed and really needed my help.
When I tried calling my MIL she wouldn’t pick up so I just kept working and that I thought could explain myself later. Later when it was time to go home I drove to the hospital but MIL and her sisters refused to let me in the room and called me names like “a bad father and a bad husband”.
When it was finally time to leave the hospital my wife and new born baby went home with MIL and they haven’t spoken to me in days even when I try and apologize and explain myself.
I thought I was doing the right thing but I need to know, AITA?
Here's what people thought in the comments.
YTA. Here’s a news flash…lots of restaurants need staff. You should have gotten out from under your father’s thumb a long time ago, before it affected your wife and child.
Adding to it, who would want to work for an abusive boss? No wonder they are understaffed too.
I legitimately would never forgive my husband if he did this to me (obvious YTA)
YTA grow a back bone. You left your wife to go through one of the hardest things without you because you can’t set boundaries. And you didn’t even have the decency to let her know you weren’t coming.
Obviously your dad is the biggest ahole but you’re a close second for allowing this and for basically abandoning your wife with no explanation x