Woman calls cops on boyfriend's family after they 'borrow' her car without asking.

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Desperate times call for desperate measures.

This means sometimes, the only way to truly set a boundary is to bring out the big dogs and potentially cause a rift in the relationship. This can manifest in a lot of different ways, but calling the cops is certainly an extreme version.

In a popular post on the AITA subreddit, a woman asked if she's wrong for calling the cops on her boyfriend's family.

She wrote:

AITA for calling the police on my boyfriend's family?

Last year I moved in with my bf and his dad. My BF and I were in a long-distance relationship for a few years and I moved across the country to be with him after I finished graduate school. Due to such a large distance, I opted to sell my car and buy a new one after moving. When I did this my boyfriend helped me out by loaning me some money to help pay the down payment but I have since paid him back.

Last week my bfs older sister who lives in another state came to visit and stayed in the house with us. This was my first time meeting her and I thought she was very nice, but I didn't get to know her well. Two days ago my bf and I were out running errands together and his sister called him to ask when he would be back so she could borrow his car to go hang out with her friends in a town about an hour away.

He told her it would be a while and she then asked if it was okay to borrow my car. My boyfriend asked me and I told him I was not comfortable with that and to tell her no. My boyfriend did tell her no, I heard the entire conversation. Well ,a few hours later my boyfriend and I got home and my car was gone. I was shocked and my boyfriend was confused.

When we went into the house his dad informed us that he gave my bfs sister the spare key to my car that was in the lockbox because she said she needed to go somewhere.

My boyfriend told him that she asked to drive my car and that we had told her no so he didn't understand why she was allowed to take it and his dad said that since my bf helped pay for the car that it therefore was partly his, which meant his sister had the right to drive it as well. I was absolutely livid and I couldn't believe that anyone would do something like this.

My name is the only one on the title, insurance, etc. as I am the SOLE owner. My bf told his dad to call her and tell her to bring my car back immediately and she said she would 'be home soon.' Well after two hours I called the police and reported my car stolen because I was worried that if it got damaged or something then I would be forced to pay the repairs even though it wasn't my fault.

My bf's dad and sister were pissed about this and they accused me of trying to get them arrested. They are now demanding that I apologize to them and tell the police it was all a misunderstanding but I really don't want to because I feel that they've tried to take advantage of me. My boyfriend agrees with me but he even said he thinks calling the police to report the car stolen may have been too far. AITA?

People had a lot to say about this one.

cbm984 wrote:

NTA. It wasn't a misunderstanding. She straight up stole your car. If she had gotten arrested, she'd have no one to blame but herself. Also, considering what an AH your bf's dad is, you should probably look into moving out as soon as you can.

ThrowRA_boozebag31 wrote:

NTA. F**k 'em. It's funny how the thing that goes 'too far' is always the thing that works.

MagereHein10 wrote:

NTA. The dad and sister are thieves and FAFOd. If they get arrested: yay! Do NOT apologize, do not retract the police report.

thea**holethrowawa had a key question:

I just wanna be nosey...what's your plan because you know you're getting kicked out after this right?

And OP answered:

OP here! There have been sooo many comments and I've read them all with an open mind and I really appreciate every single response! However as I've read I've seen lots of comments I want to reply to so I am just going to post one here addressing a few different things.

I did not call 911 or emergency services, I called the police department directly through their non-emergency line to ask to file a police report. They said they would send someone and by the time the police officer arrived to our home his sister had been back for about 30 or so minutes.

My car was not damaged and everything on it was fine, so I just explained to the officer the situation and he asked if I wanted to press charges and I said no. The sole reason I wanted to file a police report was in case something on my car was damaged, and since it wasn't, I believed it wasn't necessary to take it any further.

The police officer talked to his sister and left. She won't be getting arrested, charged, etc. However, his dad and sister are still insisting I tried to have them arrested, which is why they're demanding an apology.

I have also seen a lot of comments asking me why I didn't want her to use my car, and the simple answer is because I don't know her! We had only just met and I simply did not feel comfortable giving my car to someone I don't know well. People are calling me selfish for that and everyone is entitled to their opinion, but honestly I disagree.

Further, I have both my keys now! I will make sure no one besides either my bf or I ever are able to get them again. Consider that lesson learned. Also for everyone advising me to move out, my bf and I have discussed it and we are currently searching for an apartment we can move into within the next few weeks.

My bf asked his dad would be kicking us out and his dad told him he wouldn't, but we both aren't really willing to take his word on this. I really appreciate everyone who offered kind words and advice. Some of you even left some comments that were able to make me laugh about the situation which I really appreciate as well so thank you!

Clearly, OP was NTA, she simply had to set a firm boundary.