'AITA for yelling at my girlfriend to stop eating the food I’m making?'
"AITA for yelling at my girlfriend to 'stop f%#*&%g eating?'”
My (M26) sister (F23) runs a bakery business and she’s been struggling lately to keep up with orders because she’s been short staffed. She does a lot of orders for wedding cakes that require custard or marmalade fillings, and I offered to help her out by making these fillings at home and bringing them to her so she has less work to do.
Unfortunately, the past four times I’ve made these fillings, my girlfriend (F24) has literally dipped her fingers into the filling jars and contaminated them because, in her words, she “just wanted to try some.” I’ve tried explaining to her that she can’t dip her fingers in and contaminate the entire batch, because then I have to remake it.
I said she should use a spoon and take some out if she wants to try so bad, but she just pouts and says that she likes using her fingers because it takes her back to her childhood.
Today, I was trying to finish some chocolate custard to send it over to my sister really fast because she was running late on a wedding cake order for an important client. I told my girlfriend beforehand to not eat the custard, and if she really wanted to, to please use a spoon.
I get out of the shower, and what do I see? She has her fingers in it again! I totally lost it because this is the fifth time she blatantly disregarded what I said, and I yelled at her and told her to “stop f**#$g eating” the food I’m making, because it’s not for her and she’s contaminating it.
She started crying and got mad at me for “fat-shaming” her, even though I made no comment on her weight and she has no history of weight issues or eating disorders. I know I was harsh, but she kept pushing my limits. AITA?
Here's what people had to say:
Harmonia_PASB writes:
Does she also wear a diaper and draw on the walls with crayons because it reminds her of her childhood? NTA
throwawaycakegf OP responded:
Oh God, I feel so guilty for laughing at this.
OkItem1631 writes:
Start dipping your fingers in all her makeup and smearing it everywhere and when she complains tell her it takes you back to finger painting as a child.
Swiss_James writes:
NTA- this would absolutely boil my p*ss, she has no respect for the work you are doing. The Oompa Loompas need to come along and teach her a lesson.
throwawaycakegf OP responded:
Please, the Oompa Loompas 💀
lazygworl writes:
So sorry, poor you! I feel bad that it was for an urgent order and you had to redo it on short notice. I hope you are able to knock some sense into her. It's very unempathetic of her if she goes dipping knowing you have to make a batch again and how much effort, time and other resources go into making all that stuff.
throwawaycakegf OP responded:
Exactly! I had to redo the custard so quickly, and then my sister was so stressed and rushing to put the cake together. I’m already worried for my sister because she has pre-hypertension and I’m sure this stress isn’t helping.
ManufacturerAfraid93 writes:
NTA. She’s exhausting and sounds like she’s trying to sabotage you helping your sister.