Woman tells husband his friend called her 'ugly,' husband gets in fight with friend.

"AITA for telling my husband his friend thought I was too ugly for him even though that’s not what he said?"

I’ve been with my husband since we were teens and he’s always been open about the fact that his lifestyle would’ve been completely different had we not met at such a young age and if our circumstances had been different. His friend, Jake, likes to joke about how I was lucky I met my husband when I did.

I usually don’t take it personally but he brought it up while my husband wasn’t within earshot and he made a point to tell me how he didn’t think we would’ve ended up married if we met as adults.

When I asked him why, he told me that if I was being honest with myself I could see my husband was the type to date a bunch of models before bagging himself a trophy wife at 45.

He knew I was offended because he tried to turn the conversation around by saying I was too smart to just be a trophy wife and that my husband wouldn’t have been my type if I met him as an adult either because he “was a bit of a d^%$.” I told my husband that Jake thinks I’m too ugly for him after making him promise not to say anything to him.

I did go into more detail about the conversation and my husband didn’t seem that upset before we went to bed, he even jokingly asked me if I was trying to fish for compliments.

He never said anything to Jake until they had a boy's night which is when he blew up at him. I don’t know what happened exactly but apparently, it was bad and my husband was really angry with Jake for calling me ugly, which Jake denies.

Jake’s accusing me of trying to cause issues between them by lying since he didn’t say I was ugly even once. I know he’s been calling me both insecure and vain behind my back to their friends. I did try to explain what exactly happened to my husband but it only makes him angrier at Jake every time I bring it up. AITA?

The post quickly attracted comments.

imothro wrote:

NTA. That's what Jake meant by his comment. There was no lie there.

jerkdaniels666 wrote:

NTA. You handled this really well. Jake is TA here - there's absolutely no reason he should have said what he did. What did he hope to prove, or get out of the conversation? It seems like Jake doesn't want you to be together, and he's trying to sow the seeds of doubt.

WarlockSoL wrote:

NTA and I mean, did he not call you ugly? Like, what is 'my husband was the type to date a bunch of models before bagging himself a trophy wife at 45' supposed to mean if not saying you aren't pretty enough for him? Guy sounds like a major jerk.

Trick_Study_3255 wrote:

Absolutely NTA this 'friend' sounds like someone your husband needs to leave behind. If one of my friends told my wife anything similar to that they'd either have to profusely apologize or take a hike.

basic_wannabe wrote:

NTA. Your husband has got your back, just leave it. He got angry because someone disrespected you. Don't fret over Jake's feelings in this.