'AITA for fainting at my aunt’s wedding and ruining it?'
"AITA for fainting at my aunt’s wedding and ruining it?"
I (21F) attended my aunt’s wedding a few weeks ago. I was not part of the wedding, just a guest which I was fine with. Before the wedding, everyone was advised to drink lots of water and eat beforehand because it was going to be extremely hot that day.
The wedding started at 5:00pm, and I had absolutely nothing to eat or drink up until then except maybe a granola bar because I was extremely busy that day.
So when it was time for the wedding, I was already tired and hungry. About thirty minutes into the wedding, (which was at a church btw), I was feeling uneasy and lightheaded so I excused myself to go to the washroom. As I was walking, I got that feeling like I was about to collapse. The next thing I can remember was coming to and see lots of people surrounding me including the bride and groom.
Apparently, when I fainted, I fell onto the photographer who was crouched down near me. Not only that, but he dropped the camera lens down and it broke. Tbh I don’t even remember seeing the photographer but I may have been too dizzy or something to have seen him. The wedding was a bit of a cheaper one, so the photographer was a family friend of the groom's who only had one camera with him.
The bride was just in tears that she won’t have any good pictures from her wedding. The photographer insisted that he could drive home and grab a different one, but it would take too long. The bride was indeed mad at me, but I feel it was a bit harsh as it was extremely embarrassing for me already.
Fainting never even crossed my mind as something that would happen at all. They did get pictures but they were on cellphones. AITA?
People had a lot to say about OP's quandary:
Massive YTA, are you 4 years old and have to be told to eat.... No one is ever so busy that they could have not eaten something before the wedding, even a snack on your way there. Cellphone photos are rubbish compared to real photography. They way you are not at all sorry that there are no proper photos just shows you are all about me, me, me.
Kooky-Cranberry-6583 OP responded:
I have profusely apologized to my aunt and we have moved on from it now. I really tried to pay for the broken lens but the photographer insisted that I didn’t pay for it. I am still definitely the AH here, I can that that now
Thought you were too busy? Now you just weren’t thirsty and distracted. I’m voting attention seeker like some others here. Also seemed weird you felt the need to mention that you were totally fine not being in the wedding party and “just” a guest. Perhaps not. YTA.
Kooky-Cranberry-6583 OP responded:
I said I was totally fine with not being in it because I thought people would say things like this, it wasn’t meant as sarcasm, I love my aunt and I would never want something like this to happen, I made incredibly poor choices and I can see now that I’m definitely in the wrong here.
Yeah there will be no next time for your aunt. It's amazing how nonchalant you are about ruining her wedding and the photographer's lens. YTA.
I do feel so guilty about the whole thing. I did ask if u could buy a new lens for the photographer but he said that I didn’t have to
coffeemom23 wrote:
I mean, kinda YTA, sorry - obviously you didn't mean to faint, that wasn't in your control, but by your own admission, you didn't eat or drink all day even though you knew it was going to be very hot and you'd been advised to take precautions. And you don't seem to feel particularly bad about breaking the photographer's camera lens when you fell, because it was a 'cheaper' wedding?
It's a very soft YTA since none of this was intentional, but it sounds like you were negligent and then not particularly concerned about the consequences for other people.
EDIT: wow thanks for the upvotes! also from a serial fainter, a PSA: if you feel like you're getting dizzy/lightheaded, do not do what OP did and get up and try to walk. stay seated, lie down if you can, ask someone to bring you water.
Ok-Profession-9372 wrote:
Bride and Groom: Make sure you eat and drink lots of water because it's going to be hot.
You: Too busy, can't be bothered And then you faint and take out the photographer? YTA.
_gadget_girl wrote:
YTA. You were warned that you should eat and drink before the wedding. Why? Because things like fainting and heat exhaustion are real. You ignored the advice. You fainted as a result. You could’ve gotten a pass if you hadn’t fallen on the photographer, but you did. Because of your choices, the bride does not have the wedding photographs she wanted.
She has every right to be really angry at you as your actions led to that consequence. It doesn’t matter that you didn’t intend for it to happen. What matters is that you ignored their advice and the bride suffered as a result.
CheshireCatsGrin87 wrote:
YTA. Not for the fainting, that cannot be controlled, but for not drinking and eating despite being advised to - that CAN be controlled. You are not a little kid, I don't care how busy you were - unless you were running from an erupting volcano, you should have stopped to eat and drink, especially on a hot day.
This time, you ruined a wedding. Next time, you might endanger yours and someone else's life, depending on the place. Suddenly losing consciousness is not a joke. Apologize, and don't do that again.
LitlFox wrote:
I would say a soft YTA. You obviously didn’t mean any harm or meant to do these things but you also chose to ignore their requests to avoid this very thing from happening. Not getting to have real photos for your wedding day is a big deal. If I were you, I would apologize profusely and not diminish their valid anger in the situation. It sucks but this one’s on you.