Wedding guest swaps plus-one at last minute; bride makes her leave. AITA?
Wedding drama takes up probably 25% of the entire internet. You have everything from overbearing bridezillas, to entitled parents bringing their kids to child-free weddings, to mother-in-laws who insist on wearing white. At the end of the day, it's the bride and groom's decision, and people just need to roll with it. But what happens when the bride and groom don't agree?
"AITA for kicking a girl I didn’t know out of my wedding."
My husband and I (both 27) got married a few weeks ago, and he is still upset about something I did, but I don’t think I was wrong so I thought I would ask here.
We only gave plus ones to married couples, or if we knew the SO well. My husband has one childhood friend who was coming from out of state. I’ve met him a bunch of times, but his girlfriend of three years I've only met a few times because of the distance.
I didn’t want to give him a plus one, but my husband begged since he was traveling and didn’t know anyone else at the wedding and he didn’t want him to be uncomfortable or have to travel alone. I said fine just to make him happy.
Flash forward to the reception, I see him with some girl I have never seen before. I asked my husband what was up, and he told me that his friend and his gf broke up a few days before the wedding and since he already rsvp'd for 2 he brought a friend with him.
I was pissed since I made an exception for him and I didn’t want anyone random at my wedding. I had one of my bridesmaids go to him and tell him he could stay, but I wanted his date to please go back to the hotel since this is a private event.
He said ok and didn’t make a fuss, but he left with her and didn’t come back. I thought everything was fine, and had a great night. My husband found out about it the next day and we got in an argument. He’s mad because his friend traveled and I kicked him out without talking to him. I didn’t kick him out. I just asked his date to leave.
Now it’s a few weeks later and my husband still brings it up from time to time, and his friend hasn’t been answering his texts. I kind of feel bad, but it was my wedding and I didn’t want any strangers there.
Here's what people said in the comments:
AlexFairchild writes:
INFO did your husband know he was gonna bring someone else? And how many people were at the wedding
rsvpthrpw OP says:
50 person wedding. No he found out when he showed up with her.
DumbestManEver writes:
YTA. What was the actual harm of this person being there at that point? And he had a plus 1 and it is unlikely he knew you gave him a dispensation on your “special day.” This comes off as power hungry and controlling.
You responded to perceived rudeness with the ultimate rudeness, you kicked someone out which come on, you knew her date was going to follow, so you booted your husbands friend. You are a ginormous AH. YTA.
rsvpthrpw OP says:
It was a small wedding I knew everyone there but her. I just wanted it to be small and people I knew
Bitter-Conflict-4089 writes:
YTA because these 2 people didn’t do anything wrong. Info How was friend’s invitation addressed? Was it to Mr John Smith and Ms Mary Jones? Or, was it John Smith + 1?
rsvpthrpw OP says:
It was addressed to him and his girlfriend by name
Key-Bit1208 writes:
You gave him a plus one and he used it…and then you were rude and revoked it, during the reception. His plus one did nothing wrong, wasn’t causing a drunken scene or anything…and you got offended because she existed? Sorry bridezilla but YTA 🙄
Reditxxxx writes:
YTA. You totally disrespected your husband, his friend from childhood, and the woman who did nothing wrong. That one bridezilla moment and the fact that you still think what you did is OK says a lot about the kind of person you are. And it’s not good.
I am not surprised he is still upset about it. In fact, he may be regretting marrying you if this is any indication of the way you will be treating him and his friends for the rest of his married life.