Woman brings disabled boyfriend to bother's wedding uninvited; he's furious.
'AITA for bringing my wheelchair bound boyfriend to my brother's no +1 wedding?'
My brother got married a few days ago. He and his now wife sent me an invitation and mentioned a 'no +1' rule. Meaning that I wasn't allowed to bring my wheelchair bound boyfriend of 4 years with me.
I tried asking if they'd make an exception for me because my boyfriend is family, and no one would deny that. And also, I couldn't make proper arrangements to have someone watch him (I'm his primary caregiver) while I was gone.
I ended up bringing him with me to the wedding. My brother and his bride were livid and picked an argument with me about it. My brother said some hurtful stuff, but at least he didn't say it in front of my boyfriend.
I told him it's not like my boyfriend was making a fuss or being a distraction (he remained quiet and respectful of everyone around him). My brother argued that non of that matters, and that the trust and respect he had for me was gone the minute I decided to overstep his wedding boundaries, and override the rules.
My parents understood my side, but also said that it was my brother's wedding and I should have respected the rule he had for non-official couples. We haven't talked since the wedding. I tried calling him but I keep getting hung up on. His wife texted me yesterday to say I should stop calling.
AITA? Its not like I brought a hyper active child to the wedding. I think he might have overreacted, but I'm not sure.
Comments:
lexisplays says:
YTA not only did you go against a rule, you attempted to use your bf's disability to get your way. You should be ashamed.
Is the correct answer. The disability card is being played here when it is entirely irrelevant. No plus One. You took plus one. YTA
DuckDodgers22 says:
Ugh. Guy in a wheelchair here, although I'm fully self sufficient. This makes me feel for your bf. Not only did you disrespect your brother's wishes, you made your boyfriend the center of more attention than was warranted.
You say he remained quiet and respectful. He probably was quiet because he wanted to crawl under a rock. 'Hey, look at me!! I'm the cause of strife at a wedding through no fault of my own!!' YTA
MaybeParade says:
Girl in a wheelchair here, I completely agree with you. I already stand out in most settings so being forced into it would make me want to fly away. Also OP, stop saying wheelchair bound. We are not bound to anything. Wheelchairs free us to live our lives instead of being bound to a bed.