Woman asks if she should report boss for cheating he did in college.
In a post on Reddit a woman asked if she'd be wrong to expose her boss for behavior in college that only she knows about. Here's her story...
I’ve found myself in an interesting situation that I’m not sure how to handle. My department recently got a new department manager (two levels above me), and it is someone who I graduated college with.
I was not friends or acquaintances with this person in college, but he and I know each other because I investigated him for cheating and plagiarism in our senior year (I was on the student honor board), right before graduation.
He pled guilty and received a “dean’s star” on his transcript, which essentially says that he graduated, but was caught cheating the honor system.
Well, fast forward 10 years, and I’m now in his department.
I don’t respect this person for a variety of reasons, but mostly because he cheated in college (and not just on small homework assignments, I’m talking about final exams and term papers).
He also continues to represent our company at our alma mater’s annual college fair, which also feels wrong to me, as he did not graduate honorably.
So far, he’s done his best to ignore me, like if we’re walking in the hallway, he’ll walk past and won’t make eye contact. But we’ll have “skip level” meetings twice a year where I’ll be alone with him, one on one, in his office, talking about career progression.
(We haven’t had a meeting yet since he just started.) Other than those, my interactions with him will be pretty minimal.
How do I interact with this person during those meetings? Do I just ignore our history? I’m sure he remembers me and our shared history, even though it was so long ago.
I’m also considering talking to HR about his cheating in college. What would you do?
The comments:
Is it just me or is 'dean's star' a really dumb thing to call a mark denoting someone cheated? It 100% sounds like a good thing. Like 'dean's list' (good) but a star (also good.)
I think people deserve a second chance for some offenses (at least that don't put anyone in danger). I know people who cheated because they were under immense pressure; not excusable, but it wasn't a true reflection of who they were.
It's not great if it was a pattern of behavior, but 10 years is a long time to grow up. If he's still a cheater at heart, he'll get caught out for misconduct eventually.
Just me or does this OOP seem very lame? Wanting to bring up cheating at school a decade ago??
Get over it life’s not fair. This is only going to weigh on your mind more and more and cause yourself harm. It sucks move on.