Bride asks if she's wrong for selling wedding dress so sister can't have it.
Sibling rivalries are nothing new, sisters fighting over clothes is a tale as old as time. But when it comes to something as special as a wedding dress, the stakes are high.
When Reddit user u/Scary-Worry-5204 could not get married because her groom-to-be literally disappeared (more on this later) her sister felt like she should wear the wedding dress to her own wedding instead. This heartbroken fiancée basically said 'hell no.' She sold her dress just so her sister could not wear it down the aisle.
Now she's asking the internet, 'AITA (Am I The As*hole) for selling my wedding dress, so my sister can't have it?'
She writes:
Hello people, I am a 30 yo American woman. I was in a relationship with my boyfriend, and later, fiancé for 5 years, we had an amazing relationship, and I still love him.
The thing is, he is from a foreign country living in America, he took care of some family franchise here, and my mom and my sister never liked him, they never gave me a reason to dislike him, so I assume It's because he isn't white. My mom is very old-fashioned and always badmouths non-white people, so that makes sense to me.
3 years ago, 2 months before our wedding, he went to his home country for a business trip, and then he disappeared, we still don't know what happened to him, maybe he was kidnapped, but we got no ransom, so maybe he could have been forcibly recruited into some guerrilla army. In his country, this happens a lot.
I went for a full season to his country trying to find him, but it was useless, so I came back to America. I had already bought my wedding dress, and I had it there hanging in my closet, while I waited for a miracle. NGL, I cried so many times while holding that dress.
My sister is getting married soon, and a few weeks ago, she came into my house, she just wanted to chat in the beginning, but then she asked me to give her my wedding dress. I told her no, that it's the dress for my future wedding, but my sister just told me 'He is already dead anyway, get over it, and you won't need it'. I started crying and kicked her out of my house.
Later that day my mom came into my house, demanding to give my dress to my sister, she also said that my fiancé is already dead and that 'That happens for insisting on marrying a wetback'. I was shocked and wanted to end the discussion, but she kept fighting and disrespecting my fiancé, and I kicked her out.
They kept harassing me about the dress until I got tired of them. I went to my best friend, who has a sister that is going to marry in a few months. I could sell them the dress for a cheap. They were hesitant, but finally accepted my dress and I got a bit of money. I'll be granted a special seat at the wedding in return.
I told my mom and sister that I sold my dress, but that only made the harassment worse, and now they are demanding to take it back. I don't know, was I wrong?
This wedding dress story took a wild turn, I was definitely not expecting a kidnapping subplot! Hopefully, this woman gets some answers about what happened to her missing fiancé after all of these years.
This poor woman is 'Not The Asshole.' It’s her dress. Her decision. She can keep it, sell it, or set it on fire if she wants, but she's not obligated to give it to her sister just because her family demands it. I think it's a little weird she sold the dress to her friend if it meant that much to her, but it's still her choice!
Reddit users agree this woman is 'NTA.' Her mom and sister come across as racist, heartless bullies in this story. Sounds like she's truly better off without them in her life.
NTA. What makes them think they have any right to tell you what to do with your own property. I wouldn't blame you if you cut ties with them altogether.
NTA. And OP, I guess your mother and sister didn't even think of how it would affect you, watching your sister sashay down the aisle wearing the dress you were supposed to wear at your own wedding?
That takes narcissism to a whole new level, plus - jeeeeze, that's morbid. It's good the dress went to someone who would wear it with joy, not a smirk.
NTA. They're horrible. Send them a pic of the beautiful bride who appreciated your dress🙂
NTA. Do anything with your dress but give it to your horrible sister and your racist mom. They don't deserve anything but a ban from your life.
NTA. WTF??? They are unbelievable!!!!!!! I’m willing to bet this isn’t the first time you’ve been treated poo
NTA. No matter why the wedding didn’t happen, it was supposed to be for your wedding, is your dress, and you decide what happens to it
NTA. No one is entitled to YOUR dress. The sheer audacity of your mother and sister to not only demand your dress but to continually disrespect your fiance at the same time is baffling.
It's time to go NC with them and try to find some semblance of normalcy in what must be a heartbreaking time. I hope you get closure on what happened to your fiance.